A Family's Fear, Part 2: Meagan

Giving Up Control

Dr. Phil turns back to Meagan's family. "You can't save her by destroying you. Do you get that?"

Tom says, "I'm learning to get it."

Dr. Phil addresses one of Tom's fears.


"I will tell you this," Dr. Phil tells Tom. "There is a daughter you can make a difference with. She's right there." He indicates Erika. "Because this has pushed everything out of the way. When does she get her turn?"

[AD]"She's very deserving of it," Tom says.

Oftentimes, when one child gets sick, the other children live in the shadow of that disease. Erika says she remembers asking her mother, if she got an eating disorder, would she ask her how she was doing that day?

Dr. Phil tells Tom and Donna that they have to support their daughter, not her disease, and they should set up boundaries with her, like not talking about certain subjects, like how she looks.

Meagan rejoins the discussion.

Dr. Phil lays it on the line for Meagan.


Dr. Phil introduces Meagan to Dr. Michael Berrett from the Center for Change. "He's graciously agreed to partner with us in providing you that treatment, and it's an all or none deal, and you can take it or leave it. You don't get to control it. You don't get to make demands," he tells her. "You don't know the first thing about what you're doing. Dr. Berrett does. Dr. Berrett's staff does. So you're going to have to take a leap of faith. Or you can go back to doing what you're doing."

"No, I don't want to," she says. "I want to trust somebody else for once, because I think I'm just making myself worse and worse every year that goes by. I don't know how to stop it."

Dr. Phil predicts that Meagan will change her mind and start manipulating and making demands before she gets to the Center for Change. He tells her she will have no control in her treatment. "And if you tell me that you will do it, then I expect you to stand by that and do it," he says.

[AD]"I do want to do it," she says.

"Deal?" he asks.

Meagan shakes his hand and then gives him a hug.