"When Kevin and I met, he was almost too good to be true: kind and soft-spoken. After Kevin and I go
"I got married, I bought a home and found out I was pregnant all within the same month. That was overwhelming for me. I did want children, but not right away. I wanted to get used to being a
Heather says that currently their marriage is in total chaos. "Kevin calls me insane, stupid, crazy, bitch, the
Video cameras in their home capture Kevin calling Heather a psycho. "You nag and complain about everything I do. You're driving me crazy," he tells her. "I would rather be without you."
Kevin acknowledges that the marriage is in shambles. "I have picked her up by her neck before. I wasn't trying to hurt her. I was trying to intimidate her to get out of my face and to leave me alone," he
Heather says she feels trapped. "We can't get away from him," she says, referring to her and her daughter.
Kevin claims that he doesn't want to get divorced, but his words say otherwise. "My wife needs to work on her issues real soon, or divorce is
Heather fears for her life. "Kevin told me that if I take his money if we split up, that he will slice my throat and kill me," she reveals. "Kevin told me in detail that he was imagining coming downstairs, grabbing a kitchen knife and stabbing me to death. He's told me he'll bury my body or put it in a lake. He would get away with it because nobody would know that he had pre-planned it, so he wouldn't get first-degree murder. He would only get manslaughter."
"I don't intentionally go out of no-camera zones," he says. "I get out of her way." He does admit to unplugging the cameras. "She's constantly following me around trying to provoke me into saying or doing something, and I just
"So you did unplug the cameras to hide your reactions," Dr. Phil says.
"Yeah," he replies.
"So that was dishonest. You were not wanting me to have all the data," he explains.
"Do you have any ownership in the drama here?" Dr. Phil asks Heather.
"I'm sure there's some of it that's my fault," she says.
"Do you realize there are times when you need to back off and when you need to give space?"
"And you don't do that, do you?" Dr. Phil asks.
"I try to leave, but he takes my keys, and if I run on foot, then he chases me down," Heather says.
"You don't really expect me to accept that answer?" a stunned Dr. Phil asks. He questions Heather's desire to get help. "Do you think the only time I'm talking about is when he won't give you your keys, or do you think it's when you will wake him up and talk to him and won't let him escape the pressure cooker?"
"I usually avoid him," she replies.
Dr. Phil shakes his head in disbelief. "Your capacity for insight is underwhelming," he tells her.
"I have some ownership," she says. "Sometimes I should probably leave him alone."
"Why did it take me three minutes to get to that? I really don't have the time to chase you," he says. "You have ownership in this," he tells her, but points out, "There's not one thing you do does that justifies what [Kevin] does."
Dr. Phil lists Kevin's violent behavior toward Heather, including: cornering her and grabbing her by the neck, threatening to throw her down the stairs and pushing and hitting her while she's holding the baby. "Have you strangled her?" he asks.
"I put my hand around her throat and picked her up, yes. Have I strangled her? No," he says. "Was I trying to squeeze the life out of her? No. Was I trying to intimidate her to leave me alo
"Have you said, â€˜You want to talk. You want attention. I'm going to give it to you, you stupid bitch, you stupid C'?" Dr. Phil asks.
"I probably have said that," he says.
"Have you thrown her up against the bedpost until it broke?"
"I grabbed her, and I was going backward with her, and her shoulder hit it," he explains.
"That's what happens when you get physical. Things happen by accident," Dr. Phil tells him.
"That's why I'm here, because I don't want to do it, no matter what," he says. "I'm going to get fixed one way or the other, with or without her."