Adoption Scams, Part 2: Crissy and Melissa

Crissy's Plea

Note: Since this interview, Melissa has agreed to allow the Dr. Phil show reveal her face.


"This is a power trip for you, isn't it?" Dr. Phil asks Melissa. "You like being in control here. You like being in power because you know that I won't " I get the feeling that you are really getting off on denying those women." Melissa interjects that she doesn't think so, but Dr. Phil continues. "I get the feeling because you have this smug look on your face when you say, 'No, I don't want to talk to them.'"

Melissa reasserts that she doesn't believe she's on a power trip.

Dr. Phil says, "You don't want to meet them, you don't want them to see you, you don't want to face them. Would you like to hear from them?"

"No. I do not," Melissa says firmly.

He offers her a chance to look into the camera and speak her mind to the women, but Melissa tells him she has nothing to say.

"I think that is really tragic," says Dr. Phil.

"How can you not remember Jen?" Crissy asks.

"I don't remember her," Melissa says. "I read her story from the producer today. I do not remember her. As I've said, I'm not saying it did not happen, but I do not remember her."

"Then there could be others that you don't remember," says Crissy.

Melissa says, "Quite possibly."

Dr. Phil asks Melissa, "So, what are you going to do if these women show up at your house on their own? Are you going to have somebody pull a gun on them again?"

"No," she says, "I'll call the police. I'll call the police again."

"Well, I suspect they'll show up with the police," he tells her. "I don't think you'll have to yell very loud to get the police, because I think they've tried to resolve this amicably and " "

"How have they tried to resolve it amicably?" she asks.

"By being here instead of in the court!" Dr. Phil declares. "By being here instead of at the police station. By coming here and talking to you in a civilized and controlled situation facilitated by a professional. I think that's a pretty big step on their part. You hurt those women, and I just ain't reading a lot of remorse. I'm just not reading that in you."

"Because I won't talk to them?" asks Melissa.

"Your whole attitude," he says. "You don't seem sorry. You don't seem sorry."

Melissa explains, "I'm nervous, and I'm scared. And I don't know " " 

"You know what? I'm scared too," says Crissy. "Because I'm scared to adopt a baby now. I'm scared to trust somebody. Do you know what that feels like? What you have done is going to affect us for the rest of our lives. That room, that baby stuff that's still in my bedroom closet, that may never be given to a child because I'm too scared, and you did that."

"I am so sorry, Crissy," says Melissa. "You didn't deserve anything that I did to you, any of the promises that I broke."

"No, I didn't," she replies. "I tried to be good to you. I tried to help you. I did anything you asked me. You called me up, and I jumped. I sent you to Houston so you could stay with another couple. I found that out. And what about them? There's just a long line of people. I'm a number, Melissa. I'm not anything more than a number."

Dr. Phil asks Crissy, "Have you got anything else you want to say to her?"

"I understand that you are sorry," she tells Melissa, "but whatever we all have to do after this, we all have to do."

"Yep," Melissa says with resignation.

"I can't let you do it to anybody else," Crissy says.

"You have to do what you have to do, and I'm willing to face anything that I have coming in criminal charges," Melissa responds. 

"Anything else you want to say?" asks Dr. Phil.

"No," Melissa replies.

"Any questions you want to ask?"


"So, you're going to send those two women home?"

"Yes," says Melissa.

"Without showing them the courtesy of looking them in the eye," Dr. Phil adds.



"You like that, don't you?" Dr. Phil asks.

"No," she says.