Karen lies on her resume, which says that she's 33, and admits she'll only date men her age is if they look younger. "A recent boyfriend of mine started getting some gray hairs and some wrinkles. That really bothered me," she says. "It kicked up my own fear of aging." She turns to Dr. Phil for help.
"So what's wrong with 46?" Dr. Phil asks.
Karen says it's a problem in her business, which is singing.
"This isn't about your business," says Dr. Phil. "You don't sit home and measure wrinkles because you're a singer."
"No, I don't. That's true," says Karen.
"So it's not about your business; it's about you. Why is it so important to you?" Dr. Phil asks.
Karen thinks she may have learned it from her mother, who was very worried about getting older. "So when I analyze it, I think that's where the origin of it is," she says.
Dr. Phil gets right to the point: "Here's the thing that is so counterproductive for you. This is the Catch-22 of what you're in. I said stress is the number one ager. For every thought you have, there's a physiological event that goes on in your body. If you think happy thoughts, you secrete different chemicals than if you think depressing thoughts, worried thoughts or anxious thoughts. So if you're sitting around the whole time stressing, that stress, I promise you, is aging you faster than anything you can do to slow it down."
"What would happen if you just decided, 'You know what? I'm going to take the advice, I'm going to do the things I'm doing, I'm going to figure out everything I can to do as good a job I can to manage this, but I'm going to embrace being 46 instead of trying to be 33'? I mean, that is a fraud and a deception on you because you always feel like you're living a lie, right?"
Karen admits it's true, and explains that when a younger man she was dating found out her real age, he broke up with her.
"You've got to embrace who you are and be happy about it," Dr. Phil tells her. "Aging truly is a state of mind."