Ask Dr. Phil: Carli

Ask Dr. Phil: Carli


Carli wants to know: "Dr. Phil, how can I stop my husband from driving erratically with my kids in the car?" Carli explains that her husband, Armon, has had two accidents and one "incident" and he speeds with their kids in the car. 

Armon denies it. "She has her eyes closed most of the time, so she doesn't know," he says, laughing.

"Are you a reckless driver?" asks Dr. Phil.

"No," says Armon.

Carli disagrees. "He denies it. He thinks that it's OK and it's not something we need to worry about."

"Why have you had two accidents and one incident?" asks Dr. Phil.

"Because she's yelling at me," he explains.

"Oh, you're a victim! You're a victim of her distracting you," says Dr. Phil.


"The last accident, I wasn't even there," defends Carli.

"I admit to that one," says Armon.

Dr. Phil cuts to the chase. "Here's the thing: If you've got the kids in the car, you've got to think about that. The day my son was born, I changed the way I did things. All of a sudden, if I do something with a negative consequence, somebody else pays for it, whether they're in the car or not. There comes a time when you've got to think, ‘Wait a minute, it's not about what feels good to me at the time. This might have further reaching ramifications.'"