Betrayed by Blood: Alicia, Michelle

A Family Shattered
"My younger sister had an affair with my fiancé, who is the father of my child," says Alicia, 22.

"The night that it happened, I was intoxicated," says Michelle, 20. "I was heading to bed, and he came into my room, and he asked me if I wanted to have sex with him. At first, I said no, and then he came back, and he was like, ‘Come on, I really need this.' Then he got in my bed, and it just kind of happened."

"I was in the room right next to them," Alicia says.

"My sister found out about a year later. She called me and asked me straight out, ‘Did you sleep with my boyfriend?' I said, ‘Yes. I'm sorry.' And she said, ‘You're a whore,' and then hung up," Michelle says.

"I was shaking. I was like, ‘This is not real.' I was upset. I was hurt. I was shocked. I definitely feel betrayed by my sister. I didn't just lose a fiancé, I really lost two best friends: a fiancé and a sister, all in one hit," Alicia says.

"I want to reconcile with my sister, Alicia, very, very much. It's been over a year since we've even talked. I'm afraid she won't forgive me," Michelle says.

"Michelle tried to apologize multiple times, but to me, sorry wouldn't cut it for what she did to me. I feel like I don't even have a sister anymore for what she did. Even to this day, looking at Michelle, it disgusts me," she says.

Alicia tells Dr. Phil that she was betrayed by both of them, but it was her sister's betrayal that hurt the most. "Boys come and go, I guess. Sisters are pretty much there for the rest of your life," she says.

[AD]"Were you glad that your friends told you?" Dr. Phil asks.

"Yes. I'm glad I didn't have to go pretty much the rest of my life blinded that somebody could do that to me, on both ends," she says. Alicia says she also learned that her sister wasn't the only one her fiancé slept with.

Dr. Phil asks Alicia why she thinks her sister betrayed her.

"They always have excuses," she says. "There's no excuse for what she did."

Alicia and Michelle face each other for the first time in more than a year.

"Is there anything you want to say to her?" Dr. Phil asks Michelle.

Michelle takes a deep breath, looks at her sister and grows tearful. "I'm sorry," she says, wiping away her tears. "I know that's not enough, but I'll do whatever it takes to get you back in my life. I miss you. I miss my sister. I love you so much. I cannot have you not in my life anymore."

Dr. Phil asks Michelle some hard questions.

 

[AD]Dr. Phil asks Michelle if she was high that night, because she has also used drugs. She says she was just drunk.

Dr. Phil asks Alicia about her ex-fiancé. "And you've forgiven him?"

"No, I don't think I've forgiven him for what he did. If I could, I would never see him or speak to him again in my life. But because I have a child with him, I have to somewhat have him be a part of what's going on," she says.

Alicia is now happily married to someone else and is expecting her second child.

 

In a previous interview, Michelle laments, "I was not invited to Alicia's wedding."

"I had heard that Michelle had travelled down to town. I think she was almost wishing that I would change my mind at the last minute, but I didn't. My wedding day was my day to enjoy and remember, and I didn't want that negativity there," Alicia remembers.

"When I saw Alicia's wedding video, I was super upset. I watched the video, and I immediately started crying," Michelle says, growing emotional. "She was standing up there and saying her vows, and I could just picture it in my mind, thinking that I could've been there. I should've gone. What was I thinking? I should've just gone. Just the fact that I couldn't go, and my sister doesn't want to be a part of my life at all, and she doesn't want to speak to me ... "

Back onstage, Dr. Phil tells Michielle, "When you choose the behavior, you choose the consequences. Should you have been invited to that wedding? Did you deserve a seat at the wedding?"

[AD]"I don't think so," she says. Michelle says she wanted to go anyway and stay in the back so no one would see her, but she didn't.

Michelle longs to be in her sister's life again, so she can be in her niece's life. She tells Alicia, "I want us to be able to talk again. I know this thing is not going to just be overnight everything's OK, but I want to start off on a new slate and start all over, so I can be in your life and be in your kids' lives." Michelle breaks down in tears. "I'm so sorry. I never meant to hurt you."

"I don't know how I can trust somebody who could do that to me again," Alicia says.

Dr. Phil questions Michelle to find out if she's trustworthy. "First, let's get down to basics: Are you clean and sober?"

"Yes, eight months," she says.

Alicia says she's doubtful, because she's heard it before.

"So, you aren't smoking dope?" Dr. Phil asks.

"I have, like, a couple times," she admits.

"If you're smoking marijuana, you're not clean and sober," Dr. Phil tells her. "That's a drug. It alters your brain. It impairs your ability to problem solve and make decisions." Dr. Phil points out that Alicia needs her to make real changes in her life, like being clean and sober, in order for her to find her trustworthy again.

Alicia says, "I have kids to think about. It's not just me anymore."

Alicia and Michelle's mother, Robin, feels like she's caught in the middle, trying to support both of her daughters.

In a previous interview, Robin says, "Alicia and Michelle not speaking to each other has been extremely difficult on me."

"My mom makes excuses for Michelle a lot. I feel like they always made it seem like it was never really Michelle's fault; it was the alcohol," Alicia says. "I don't feel like they ever made Michelle take responsibility for what she did."

"I understand that Alicia was very angry with Michelle. I also felt sympathy for Michelle. I felt like I was truly in the middle of the whole situation," Robin says.

[AD]"I felt like my mom was almost feeling more sorry for my sister than she was for me. It did hurt me. I felt like she was picking Michelle over me," Alicia says. "I didn't feel like it was fair to me at all, because why would you want anybody who did this to you back into your life?"

Back onstage, Dr. Phil says to their mother, "It's tough to see your children fractured."

 

"Yes, it is. Very much so," she says. Robin says hearing Michelle admit that she wasn't 100 percent clean and sober hurt her as well.