Birth Order: An Only Child

An Only Child
Dr. Phil talks to a woman who fears being alone because she is an only child.



Sharon says she had a terrific childhood. It wasn't until she got older that she felt panic about being an only child.

"People always asked me how it was [being an only child]," explains Sharon. "I never thought too much about it. I was happy and everything was fine until recently. I lost my second parent. I am married but don't have a family of my own. I have a wonderful husband and support system of friends, in-laws and extended family. But I have this overwhelming feeling of being alone."

"What is your fear at this point?" asks Dr. Phil. "Where is the emptiness? What's missing?"

"I don't think anybody understands what I'm going through," says Sharon.
"I'm hoping that might go away once I have my own family," says Sharon. "But I can't guarantee that I'm going to have that."

When Dr. Phil asks Sharon to describe her feelings she says, "I feel like I'm in a well and nobody can seem to reach me. I feel like there isn't one person that I can actually go to and say how I'm feeling. I end up holding back a lot of things because I don't feel like there is that person out there."

"One of the sad things in life is that sometimes we have to give ourselves what we wish we could get from someone else," says Dr. Phil. My wife lost both of her parents at a very young age. We were married but I've said that's the day I really got married. She was sitting on the bed crying and said, 'I feel like I'm so totally alone.' I matured in that moment because in that moment I said, 'I will never leave you.' I felt the pain that she had and I've tried to replace that emptiness for her. Give your husband a chance to do that."