Bullies Beware Pt 2: Nick and Nancy

Big Bad Bully?
"I am a bully. I pick on kids because it makes me feel better, bigger, stronger," boasts 13-year-old Nick. "The power of bullying feels great, because all through elementary, I was bullied. My reputation in school is being a badass, doing what I want, not giving a crap about what any adult says."
 
As a result of Nick's bad behavior, he has been suspended from school six times in the last two months. He reveals examples of his bullying. "I put a cigarette out on my friend's neck for * and giggles. I shoved a kid into a locker and called him a *. There was a kid in the ninth grade. He called my girlfriend a skanky whore. The next day, we got into a fight at lunch, and I got suspended for five days for beating him up. I'm small, but I can pack a punch."
 
Nick has called his teacher a "dirty bitch" and says he's well-known by the administrators at his school, but the teen admits he wants to turn his life around. "I want Dr. Phil to help me stop bullying. I do it because it makes me feel better than everyone else around me, makes me feel like the tough guy. It's hard to quit bullying when you were bullied for six years straight, and all of a sudden you're the bully, and you feel better."
 
"When you aggress against another kid, do you ever wonder or worry about how it makes them feel?" Dr. Phil asks Nick, who joins the show via satellite.
 
[AD]"No, I do not feel that way. I do not think if it hurts them " mentally or physically. I really don't care," he replies.
 
Dr. Phil mentions the incident where Nick extinguished a cigarette on another teen's neck. "Did you worry about if he was in pain, or if it hurt him in anyway?" Dr. Phil probes.
 
"No," Nick answers. But he admits that he later apologized to the student after he alerted the principal. Dr. Phil wonders if Nick was truly contrite, or just sorry he got caught.
"I am a bully. I pick on kids because it makes me feel better, bigger, stronger," boasts 13-year-old Nick. "The power of bullying feels great, because all through elementary, I was bullied. My reputation in school is being a badass, doing what I want, not giving a crap about what any adult says."
 
As a result of Nick's bad behavior, he has been suspended from school six times in the last two months. He reveals examples of his bullying. "I put a cigarette out on my friend's neck for * and giggles. I shoved a kid into a locker and called him a *. There was a kid in the ninth grade. He called my girlfriend a skanky whore. The next day, we got into a fight at lunch, and I got suspended for five days for beating him up. I'm small, but I can pack a punch."
 
Nick has called his teacher a "dirty bitch" and says he's well-known by the administrators at his school, but the teen admits he wants to turn his life around. "I want Dr. Phil to help me stop bullying. I do it because it makes me feel better than everyone else around me, makes me feel like the tough guy. It's hard to quit bullying when you were bullied for six years straight, and all of a sudden you're the bully, and you feel better."
 
"When you aggress against another kid, do you ever wonder or worry about how it makes them feel?" Dr. Phil asks Nick, who joins the show via satellite.
 
[AD]"No, I do not feel that way. I do not think if it hurts them " mentally or physically. I really don't care," he replies.
 
Dr. Phil mentions the incident where Nick extinguished a cigarette on another teen's neck. "Did you worry about if he was in pain, or if it hurt him in anyway?" Dr. Phil probes.
 
"No," Nick answers. But he admits that he later apologized to the student after he alerted the principal. Dr. Phil wonders if Nick was truly contrite, or just sorry he got caught.
Dr. Phil addresses Nick's mother, Nancy. "The school said you too are a bully, Mom. Are you modeling the wrong behavior for your son?" he asks.

"I'd like to know how I've been a bully, because as far as I know, I haven't been," Nancy responds.
 
"You can ask the school about that, but let me tell you what our experience of you has been," Dr. Phil says, consulting his notes.
 
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Learn how Nancy has treated Dr. Phil staffers. Plus, find out what makes Nick, a Dr. Phil staff member, tear up.
 
Dr. Phil turns his attention back to the teen. "Nick, I think it's very important that you have personal power in your life," he says. "You can either be a good person with that power, or you can be someone who uses strength, and power and personality in a way that hurts other people. I promise you, it comes to a bad end. The truth is, if you get in a power struggle with adults, you're going to lose, because we have the power to take you out of the game, we have the power to put you in juvenile hall, we have the power to put you in jail."
 
[AD]"I want to learn how to be a leader, not a follower. I want to be nice to people," Nick says. "It's like an addiction. That's what I think it is. I'm addicted to bullying, and I need help."
 
"I'm going to offer you that help," Dr. Phil promises. He says he'll provide a professional in Nick's community to help him deal with anger and control issues. Nick expresses gratitude for the help.