She is constantly comparing her physical features to the pop star. "She's got beautiful brown eyes that stand out because of her beautiful blond hair. My hair isn't long enough and it's not blond enough," she complains. "Her teeth are beautiful. I want my teeth
Stacie had liposuction, a nose job and breast implants — and a hospital bill of over $20,000. She wants to get even more surgery to look like her idol.
"I always get that I resemble Jennifer Anniston. I would prefer to look like Jessica Simpson. I don't think I'm ever going to be happy unless I can resemble her," she says.
"If you went and just made yourself over to look like Jessica Simpson, what do you think that would achieve?" Dr. Phil asks Stacie.
"I think I would feel absolutely beautiful," she replies. As a stay-at-home mom, Stacie reveals that she doesn't like to leave the house because she lacks self-confidence. "I think that people look at me and think that I am unattractive. I would just like to know what it would be like to feel like Jessica Simpson and just walk outside and know t
Dr Phil interjects. "You just made a very important distinction. You said, 'I would like to know what it feels like' ... But that has nothing to do with how you look. How you feel, how much self-confidence you've got, that comes from the inside out. It has nothing to do with looking like somebody else," he stresses. "And by the way, do you get the fact that Jessica Simpson doesn't look like Jessica Simpson?"
Stacie protests, "No, but she does."
Dr. Phil is incredulous. "No she doesn't! Do you think she looks like that when she's cleaning up after the dog or something?" he asks. "It's smoke and mirrors ... It's Hollywood."
"I just think that if I changed a couple more things then maybe I would be happy again," she explains. "As soon as I had my surgery ... after I healed, I felt so much more confident."
Dr Phil warns, "But if you get addicted to plastic surgery, trying to be somebody you're not, you're going to wind up looking like a freak."
"That's what people tell me. They're like, 'Do you want to look like Michael Jackson?'" Stacie laughs.
Dr. Phil tells Stacie that she needs to learn to like herself the way she is. She needs to say, "'I'm OK with me because I'm going to be with me for a long, long time.' And you've got to learn to accept yourself — your gifts, your skills, your abilities, your traits, your characteristics — that uniquely define you and you don't do that."
"Are you intelligent or are you dumb?"
"I'm intelligent. I've been to school."
"Are you a loving mother?"
"So you give [your daughter] the gift of love and acceptance, and I will guarantee you that Jessica Simpson would give her front seat in hell to have a lot of the things that you have," Dr. Phil stresses. "If you are obsessed with who you are not and what you don't have, then you will never appreciate what you do have. And if I was a plastic surgeon, I wouldn't touch you with a ten-foot poll ... Your goal needs to be not to change your body image but to change your self-image."
He encourages Stacie to read his book Self Matters to change the way she feels about herself. "And then you can look at Jessica Simpson and say, 'She's cute. I really like her singing. I really like her talent ... I admire her for being disciplined enough to work out and all that stuff, but I'm also glad to be me,'" he says. "It's not about your body image and it's not about being somebody you're not. And the good news is, there's nothing wrong with who you are. It's just a matter of you accepting that."
"Well, I am going to read your book," she says.
"The goal has got to be to accept yourself, but you can't become somebody else," Dr. Phil warns.
Stacie starts to talk about the women who make transformations on shows like "The Swan." "When the women go on the show, they
Dr. Phil interjects, "Number one, you see them the day of what they call 'the big reveal.' You don't see them three months later, you don't see them after the fact. Two, you've been through that. You've had all the surgery and you're sitting here today saying, ' I don't like myself. I want to be someone else.' ... And right now as you sit there, you look better than those girls do when they're finished."