Chore Wars: Bridget, Mike

Daily Chores vs. Monthly Chores
“When you start bringing in the same amount of money that I do, then it would be fair for me to do the same amount of chores in the house that you do,” Mike tells Bridget in a discussion about the division of labor.

In her interview, Bridget says, “I absolutely feel like I work a double shift. I’m a therapist outside of the house, and then I come home and work another shift.”

“The division of labor between Bridget and I is more balanced than she sees,” Mike says.

“My domestic chores include: making dinner, making lunch for the kids, washing the clothes, helping with homework, get Ally up in the morning, I change all her diapers, I vacuum, dust, clean the bathroom, I clean the toilets, I clean the ceiling fans, I clean the TV, I take out the garbage … ”

“Bridget may ask me to take out the trash. She wants it done within the next 30 seconds,” Mike says. “In my mind, I’m thinking, it’s fourth quarter of the game on Saturday. The trash truck doesn’t get here until Tuesday. I’m good for awhile.”

“When I ask Mike to do something on the inside, he right away pulls the outdoor chores card,” Bridge says.

“I take care of the pool, maintain the vehicles, oil changes, that type of thing. That’s all work that I do,” Mike says.

[AD]Bridget says her duties are daily, whereas Mike’s are weekly or monthly. “Dishes are daily. I have to do the dishes every day,” Bridget says.

“Man invented the double-sided sink so that we had a place to put the dirty dishes until they’re ready to go into the dishwasher,” he says.

“So, when I come home from travelling, and the kids are disheveled, the beds aren’t made, there’s cat hair all over the place, the cat hasn’t been fed, I confront Mike about this,” she says.

“From my perspective, as long as the kids are still alive and the house hasn’t burned down, we’re pretty good,” Mike says.
Dr. Phil asks Mike to explain his comment that if his wife made an equal amount of money, he’d do an equal amount of chores.

“I work 50, 60 hours a week. She does work, but it’s a part-time job, maybe an hour a day outside the home. Yes, she works hard in the home, but not as much as I do out of the home,” he says.

Bridget argues that she works more than an hour a day but doesn’t get paid for a lot of work that she does. “I’d say 30 to 40 hours a week,” she says.

“You’ve gotten away with this for 16 years?” Dr. Phil asks Mike.

“Don’t blow it for me now!” he says.

Dr. Phil points out the difference in chores: Hers are daily, his are monthly.

Bridget says the housework she listed in her interview is work she does every day. “You have to stay on top of it,” she says.

“Does the carpet need to be vacuumed every single day?” Mike asks.

[AD]“Yes, when you have three [children]. Are you kidding me?” Bridget asks.

Asked if he changes diapers, Mike says, “I have,” but Bridget argues that he has maybe changed three diapers in the history of their three children.

“What do you do when you smell a dirty diaper?” Dr. Phil asks.

Mike says that if his wife isn’t home, he’ll put his shirt over his nose and take care of it. He admits, though, that he might not jump on the job immediately.

Dr. Phil’s previous guest, Cam, says to Bridget, “I can’t see how you did it for 16 years.”
“I saw a study one time where they were asking women what they consider sexy,” Dr. Phil says. “What women said they consider sexy is when their husband did something to lighten their load, like did the dishes or cleaned the oven.”

Both Cam and Bridget agree.

“And that really put them in the mood. Have you ever thought about that?” Dr. Phil asks.

“I have thought about that,” Kyle says, “but who’s going to lighten our load? Nobody comes to work with us to help us with our work.”

“You have two days off of work,” Cam argues. “I have to work seven days, and if I don’t work seven days, nothing gets done.”

“And we don’t have hours,” Bridget points out.

[AD]Kyle points out that the wives can take a nap during their workday, but the men can’t or they’d be fired.

“With a 2-year-old, really?” Bridget asks.

Dr. Phil points out that a toddler has to have a mother’s undivided attention every four minutes during the day. “So, they’re going to take a three-minute, 50-second nap?”