Divided By Race: Teddi and Brooke
A mother who objects to her children dating outside of their race finds out her daughter is dating a black man.
Teddi: I would feel embarrassed if my daughters dated a black man. I would wonder where I went wrong. I don't consider myself a racist just because I wouldn't want my daughters dating or marrying black men. I refer to black people jokingly as "porches." We've seen movies where they've been called "porch monkeys," and it just kind of stuck with me, so I just narrow it down to porches. I've referred to them as "niggerachis" and a couple times as "coon." That's about it. I wouldn't say it out loud in front of their friends. I know they look at blacks, but I just shut out the thought because they're not dating them yet.
Teddi's 21-year-old daughter Brooke is upset that her mom is against interracial dating because she has a secret she wants to reveal to her mother.

Brooke: I'm seeing somebody, and he's black. Because of the way my mother feels, it's put a halt on him wanting to be with me. My preference is men of color. They can be black or Hawaiian. White guys are just not attractive to me physically. I'm the goody-goody of the family ... so for me to even think of being with a black guy is crazy to my family ... It's my life and I just want her to accept what I'm doing.

Teddi admits to Dr. Phil that she would be a little embarrassed about the situation because of the reactions she anticipates from friends and coworkers.
Dr. Phil [to Brooke]: You said some things a little while ago that struck me as being just as racially motivated as some of the other things I've heard here today. You said, 'I just don't like white guys. It has to be a man of color, or I'm just not interested.' How can you say that?

Brooke insists that she doesn't discriminate against white people and that her preference for men of color isn't motivated by racism or rebellion against her mother.

Dr. Phil: I sense your mother has a different motive from what you might think. I think she would be embarrassed personally, but at a core level I sense that she has a real mother's concern for a daughter making a decision that will subject her to pain, ridicule and judgment in her own life.

Dr. Phil [to Terri]: If she's going to make a decision that might cause her judgment and ridicule in society, the thing to do might be to help her prepare for and deal with that rather than judge her for it. The judgment you fear her dealing with starts with you. You need to caution yourself about being so judgmental that you wall yourself off from your daughter so she won't talk to you about this. You want to keep that channel open. You don't have the ability to influence opinions if that door is shut. So you need to be a little less quick to judge and a little quicker to educate. Share and discuss things so that you can help [your daughter] make decisions with a full set of data.