DNA Dramas: Kristie

DNA Dramas: Kristie

"I met this guy through a friend," says Kristie. "When I first met him, he was extremely polite and nice. He asked for my number from his friend and contacted me when he came back through town, and we had communicated a couple times over cell phone. It wasn't like a one-night stand by any means. We had slept together more than once over three-and-a-half months. He never implied that he had a girlfriend or anything more than that." Kristie found out that he was married by looking at his MySpace page, and then confronted him. "He said that they were no longer together," she says. "I believed him. About a month after I'd seen him, I had realized I was pregnant, and I called him the very next day. He pretty much threatened that his life would be over and begged me in every way, shape and form not to have this child."

She continues, "I decided to have this child because it's something that I could never imagine not doing. When I told him that I was keeping the child, he told me that I was crazy. He even went as far as to say it was going to affect him more than it was affecting me. He cut off all forms of communication about four months ago. I am now seven months pregnant, and I haven't been able to reach him directly. I am beyond 100 percent sure that this is his child."

Kristie feels overwhelmed at the idea of being a single mom but is confident she can make a happy home for daughter. Of her former paramour she says, "What I would like from him is just to admit that it is his child and to take responsibility. I don't want my child to have to go through life not knowing her father at all."

Kristie says the man disconnected the only number that she had for him and she has since learned he's still married. So Dr. Phil puts private investigator Harold Copus on his trail. Not only does Harold find the guy, he shows up with a camera crew. Harold introduces himself and shows the man a picture of a pregnant Kristie.

"Never seen this girl before," says the man.

"She says you're the father," Harold tells him.

He laughs, and says, "This has got to be a joke."

"You went out with your buddy, and he had a girlfriend," says Harold. "You were only with this girl 2 or 3 times at most."

The man suddenly seems to recall the roommate of his girlfriend's friend. "That girl," he says. "I never messed around with that girl. Not at all." He claims to be confused.

"Well, there's no confusion," says Harold. "You know the girl. Now, when we put it into context, you recognize her. You were out in L.A., that was your buddy, you did meet her, obviously you spent the night over at their apartment, and she says y'all had sex once, maybe twice."

"She's a drunk, insane girl," the man says. "This conversation is over. She is crazy, and I'll see her in court. And if she's going to pursue it to that point, which I don't think will even happen because she knows it's not true."

As the man continues to deny even sleeping with Kristie, Dr. Phil's investigators put the expectant mom on the phone with him.

"Nope. Nope, never happened," he tells her. "You're crazier than hell. I saw you twice in November. I don't know what the hell you're talking about."

"When he said, 'Nope, never happened,' I couldn't do anything but laugh at that," says Kristie afterward. "I was like, 'No, I saw you in February.'" She also told him that he just needed to take responsibility and act like an adult, and that this was his child and it wasn't going away.

Back in his studio, Dr. Phil tells Kristie, "He's just saying, 'She is drunk, and crazy and wrong, and deny, deny, deny, deny. How do you feel when you hear him say that?"

"It's hard to say just because you think you kind of know somebody, at least more than that, and to hear them, like, deny something completely that is not true, it's just insane to me," she says.


"And you know, he's not going to volunteer to take a paternity test, right? He's out and gone, and he's not just going to volunteer for this. And a lot of women get in that situation where they can't find him, and then he doesn't want to do it. And so that's a problem, right?" 

" Yes," Kristie agrees.

Dr. Phil wants to assist Kristie by helping her obtain a paternity test, so he introduces her to Marshall W. Waller of the law firm, Feinberg & Waller.

 

"So what has to happen here?" Dr. Phil asks Marshall.

"We have to file a petition to establish paternity," he says. "We have to serve the person who Kristie thinks is the father, and then he has the opportunity to present whatever defense he may have. In the grand scheme of things, what really happens is we request the court order that the parties undergo paternity testing. The court will order that. He's either going to have to participate or not. If he does not participate in the paternity testing under California law, that can be used against him by the judge as evidence of his paternity."


"OK, now you understand we got you the best of the best here," Dr. Phil tells Kristie, "and he's agreed to help you. He cares about this kind of thing, and he's willing to get involved in this, and help you find this guy, and bring him to justice at this point, and you'll just start filing paperwork. Do you have to wait until the birth?"

"No, we can file now," says Marshall. "We can actually obtain reimbursement for medical costs that you've incurred so far. We can even obtain an advance on child support before the child is born. Now, mind you, if it turns out that he's not the father, you have to give the money back. But there's a lot that we can do, and once the ball gets rolling we can establish custody and visitation. It's like any other paternity matter."

Kristie has been considering writing a letter to the alleged father's wife. She says, "I had thought about it just because I don't believe that she should have to be with somebody who's deceiving her. I'm sure I'm not the first to be lied to from him. And if I were married, and my husband had a child with someone else, I would want to know."

Dr. Phil shares his advice. "At this point, I would recommend against writing that letter, and I'm going to tell you there are two basic reasons why: Number one, you don't need more drama in your life right now. This is all going to come out, and I don't know this woman, but I think, given the fact that she's having to live with this, she probably deserves a better way of finding this out."