A Breach of Trust
Alex explains why she's so angry at her mother, and Erin's reacts.


[AD]"I need people in my life who are going to empower me and lift me up, even when I screw up," Alex says.

"I can't empower you when you're making really unhealthy choices," Erin says.

"Then I don't need it," Alex says.

Erin tells her daughter that she has a prepaid college plan, and Alex informs her mom that she's already signed up to become a licensed nursing assistant.

 

Dr. Phil addresses Alex. "You truly believe that in this family, with her, you're a second-class citizen," he says. "And there's no way you're going to measure up, so why try."

Alex fights her emotions and nods.

"I don't know what to say to that," Erin says. "I have tried everything, and it comes back at me."

"Her perception is that you judge her with a different yardstick than you judge Katherine," Dr. Phil says to Erin. "It's astounding to her that her own mother would say, ‘I will testify against you in court to take your flesh and blood away from you.'" He faces Alex and says, "Tell her how alone that makes you feel, when you know they're lining up to come after your kids, and your own mother says, ‘I'm on their side.'"

Alex sobs and says, "I feel like I'm standing in a desert by myself with no water and no food, alone, with no one to help me. You're my mother, for God's sake. What is wrong with you?"

"I understand what you're saying," Erin says.

"No, you don't," Alex says. "You could never feel the way that I feel."

[AD]Erin agrees that she doesn't know Alex feels. "What I can tell you is this is how my mother acted," she says. "A lot of it is very hard for me. That hits home. She up and left when my youngest sister was 6 months old and never looked back." Erin says Alex did the same thing with Nathan.

Alex disagrees. "I made a mistake, Mom. And I tried to rectify that," she says. "My life is not perfect, and it's not a storybook, and I really wish that I had the support of my mother."

"You can have the support," Erin says.

"When I do what it is that you want, and that's not going to happen," Alex says.

"You've got to get some help," Erin says.

Dr. Phil addresses Alex. "There are a lot of things that you and I may disagree on along the way, but there's one thing we do agree on and that is that I want you to raise those children. I want you to tuck them in at night. I want them to get up, and come and run and crawl in bed with you in the morning. I want you to pick them up at school. I want you to do the things that they need from their mother, and right now, you can't do all of that, right? So that means we have to change some things," he tells her.

Alex nods.

[AD]"It may not be the way you think it should be done, but if this girl steps up as a woman and a mother and shepherds her children through life, then you're going to support that, whether it's the way you would do it or not," Dr. Phil says to Erin.

"Absolutely, yes," she replies.

Dr. Phil faces Alex and says, "I believe that you can raise those children. I believe that you can mother those children, and I believe you will dance at their weddings. But I can tell you one thing that has to happen; this relationship has to be healed."

Dr. Phil addresses Alex. "There are a lot of things that you and I may disagree on along the way, but there's one thing we do agree on and that is that I want you to raise those children. I want you to tuck them in at night. I want them to get up, and come and run and crawl in bed with you in the morning. I want you to pick them up at school. I want you to do the things that they need from their mother, and right now, you can't do all of that, right? So that means we have to change some things," he tells her.

Alex nods.

[AD]"It may not be the way you think it should be done, but if this girl steps up as a woman and a mother and shepherds her children through life, then you're going to support that, whether it's the way you would do it or not," Dr. Phil says to Erin.

"Absolutely, yes," she replies.

Dr. Phil faces Alex and says, "I believe that you can raise those children. I believe that you can mother those children, and I believe you will dance at their weddings. But I can tell you one thing that has to happen; this relationship has to be healed."

Dr. Phil tells Erin what she must do to heal her relationship with Alex.

/assets/C/c373f2539ef5a3087bf17e0a01e777fa.jpg" border="0">Dr. Phil tells Erin what she must do to heal her relationship with Alex.