"We have our differences and we always will, but she's my mom, and it's kind of touch and go sometimes," she says.
"How can we improve that?" Dr. Phil asks.
Alexandra says she and her mother, Erin, are taking the proper steps to fix their relationship, including attending counseling.
Dr. Phil asks Alex if her mother is honest when they see their therapist.
[AD]"She's helping," she says. "We got to see the real sides of each of the children's fathers, and I think she finally realizes that their intentions probably aren't the most honorable."
Dr. Phil learns that Alexandra is still living with Tony and says, "I haven't really formed an opinion about him, pro or con, at this point. The only interaction I had with him was negative, but I'm not going to judge him on one encounter." He asks the young mom about Nathan's living situation at his father's.
"I'm not happy with the way it panned out. I wish that it would have been different. I wish that the kids would have stayed together [with my mom]," Alex says.
"I'm wanting to change your momentum, and I'm wanting to help you change that so that the last five or six years don't predict the next five or six years," Dr. Phil tells Alex. "You had said you wanted to have two more children with Anthony " not right away. I think right now, that would be a horrible idea, and I think you agree."
"Right," she says.
"What do you think needs to happen before you had other children with Anthony or anybody else?" Dr. Phil asks.
"I'd like us to get married and have a little bit more stable financial situation," she says.
"Would you want to get everything resolved with the two children you have?" Dr. Phil probes.
[AD]"Yeah," Alex replies.
Dr. Phil reminds her that more children bring more complications, and right now, she needs to reduce the stress in her life. He shows her a clip from a previous show where she says, "I need somebody there to help me when I get stressed out, to help me with my children when I've had enough," and he asks her, "Would you have chosen to get involved with Anthony if you weren't so stressed out?"
"Absolutely," she replies.
"Are you holding yourself to a high enough standard in terms of your behavior, your conduct, your mothering " all of those things?" Dr. Phil asks Alex.
"I think now I am," she says.
"What have you cleaned up and grown through?" Dr. Phil asks.
"I'm focusing on my children. They're the reason that I'm doing everything that I'm supposed to be doing. I want to have them all the time," Alex says.
"At 21, almost 22, do you want to be a mom?" Dr. Phil probes.
"Yeah, absolutely," she replies. "I don't think I'd change anything. I love my children, and I like the person who I am."
[AD]Dr. Phil plays clips of Alex from a previous shows where she explains that she tries diligently to make the right decisions but can't always get things right, and she admits to dating the wrong people in the past. In another clip, her parents and sister explain their dislike for Anthony.
As the clip ends, Alex says, "I think it's funny that my dad judges people like that, when he came from nothing and was in the same situation when he was Tony's age. He was a bum. He lived with his sister."
"You seem really defensive," Dr. Phil points out.
"I try not to be," Alex says.