She weeps in the car on the way to the airport. "It's really hard. I miss my kids. I never left my kids before. It's really, really weird," says Shellye. Yet, she tries to look on the bright side. "I'm really blessed to have this opportunity."
Shellye drinks at the airport. Once on board the plane, her tray is littered with beer cans. Finally, she lands in Belize City, Belize at the New River Cove Treatment Center. "Here's to you, Jakob," Shellye says, chugging a beer before her treatment begins. She puts the beer down, then picks it back up to drain the bottle.
In her room at New River Cove, Shellye hangs a picture of her son on the mirror. "Here's my inspiration," she says.
New River Cove allowed cameras in the treatment center so Dr. Phil could monitor the couple's progress.
"Our group sessions have been eye-opening," Jake says.
During one session Shellye says, "I feel like he doesn't treat me with respect. He doesn't love me."
Jake shares his thoughts. "I felt manipulated. I felt angry. I felt embarrassed. We've been together for over eight years. The lack of communication is just amazing."
One man says to her, "My experience with you is you've been selfish and self-centered with your drinking. You don't give a flying rat's ass about your children."
Jake tells his wife, "My experience of you is that you are a manipulator. You hide behind your looks so you don't have to engage emotionally with people."
Jake has a tearful admission. "My son, Jakob's, heart stopped seven times. I'm there watching him, and I told God to take him. I've given up. I feel guilty. He's my inspiration. He's my hope. He's my future," he says. "I love my kids. You find out so much what you've done to them being a drunk. I wanted to just jump on a plane and go back and say I was sorry, and hug him and tell him how I really felt."
Shellye welcomes Jake's new attitude. "I'm seeing a man changing in front of my eyes, so I have a lot more hope today," she says.
Shellye looks forward to starting a new life as a better parent and wife. "I've got a lot to do when I get home. That makes me a little nervous because chaos causes stress, and stress leads to using," she says.
Jake is glad to be home as well. "I'll always remember the way my children looked at me. The smile on their faces and how much they missed us said it all. It made me feel like Shellye and I both did the right thing," he says.
Jake wonders how they'll sustain their momentum now that they're out of treatment. "My biggest concern about our future together is, obviously, one of us relapsing. A relapse can happen to either one of us. It's very real," he muses.
Shellye is determined to keep moving forward. "If for some reason he were to relapse, I would have to pack my bags and go," she insists.