His intention was to tell his son about the tracking device, but he put it off until Mark Allen had unknowingly driven for several days with the chip in the truck. "After three days, I took the chip out and downloaded the information into a c
Mark Allen downplays the severity of his speeding. "I thought my dad blew it way out of proportion," he says. "My dad feels that if anybody goes over 100 miles per hour, they're crazy."
"My greatest fear would be that my dad never would 100 percent trust me, just because of this one situation. We were just joking around, having a good time, and I don't think it's that big of a deal," Mark Allen says.
Mark stands by his decision to use the tracking device. "I firmly believe that every driver between 16 and 18 years old should be monitored," he says. "I will not remove the chip because I will sacrifice trust for safety. If we have trust issues, at least we don't lose our son."
Dr. Phil shows him a graphic of a car that has been involved in a crash. "That's a car that's been in a 30-mile-an-hour crash. And you see it's all dented up and knocked off, everything," he explains. Showing another picture, he says, "Now look at a car at 100 miles an hour. That's a Mercedes, which is the safest car on the road, right? Built to protect and save your life. I want
you to picture yourself in that right now, at a hundred miles an hour."
Dr. Phil drives home his point. "You may think that it's not scary to you, but I drive on the streets, and it's scary to me. My wife drives on the street. My children drive on the street, and I don't want to be on the street with a 16-year-old doing 104 miles per hour in a Mitsubishi, or anything."
Mark Allen needs to earn his father's trust. "You can say, 'Well, I feel like I was set up.' That's a matter of trust. Trust is earned. Your job is to protect him, and you did what you had to do to protect him," Dr. Phil tells Mark. "I agree with you 100 percent, without qualification, that you did the right thing here. He's not a bad kid, and the reason that you need to do this is because 16-year-olds cannot predict the consequences of their actions."
Mark says, "Well, Dr. Phil, a wise man once said, 'It is not my job to be his friend. It is my job as a parent to raise him to adulthood safe, sane, and in one piece.'"
"That's right. It was a wise man that said that!" Dr. Phil says with a smile.