Steve's wife, Theresa, tells a different story. "At the re
Terry disputes this: "I never would say anything like that. Ever. The next day, I was thrown out of the wedding. Two police officers escorted my son's mother away from his wedding. What Theresa did was absolutely vile. She didn't want me to go to the wedding."
Terry maintains her innocence. "I didn't say it. How do I defend myself against that? I consider Theresa a very cold, manipulative person."
"From the beginning, we were having problems because [Steve] didn't want his sister there, at the wedding, because she questioned how quickly they were getting married from the time that they met. And so, I just kept trying to resolve the problem," Terry explains. "But I was determined to go to this wedding, even if I had to go by myself."
Dr. Phil points out that Terry was allegedly barred from the wedding because of a comment she made to Theresa's aunt. "Had they said to you before, 'Look, this isn't a time to be airing our family business, and all that sort of thing?" he questions. "Are you a troublemaker?"
"That was just totally out of character for them to think that you would get there and air this, your resentment and pain toward your ex-husband?" Dr. Phil wonders. "Because you said, he dumped you and took off with some other woman."
"A coworker, yes."
"Any history of you being a gossip?" Dr. Phil probes.
Terry replies, "I am the recipient of a lot of gossip, but I don't like to talk about stuff that I don't know anything about."
"That's not true," Terry protests.
"When he was in college, he said that you would tell him about one of your coworkers out getting drunk and sleeping with younger women," Dr. Phil continues.
Terry is flabbergasted. "I don't recall any of this," she says.
"Then they say at the wedding that you said to this aunt — and by the way, we talked to the aunt, and she said that's exactly what you said — 'My husband couldn't keep ... it in his pants, and he got the bitch pregnant while we were still married.'"
"Oh, absolutely. I believe she said it, because there's no reason for Heather to make that up," Steve replies, referring to Theresa's aunt.
"Could you be wrong?" Dr. Phil asks Theresa.
Terry comes clean. "I'll tell you word for word what I said. And I thought it was just one divorced mother talking to another. She goes, 'What happened?' And I said, 'He worked with this chick that wanted a baby, that was the end of us.' That's exactly what I said to her. Exactly. Word for word," she maintains. Turning to her daughter-in-law, she says, "I don't know your aunt, and I couldn't imagine her making up some crude, vile comment that I would say."
"It's not a feud for me," Terry insists.
Dr. Phil is skeptical. "But you didn't want him to marry Theresa, did you?"
"I had no qualms about him getting married," she says.
Steve chimes in, "She felt that we may have rushed things," he says.
"I felt that you rushed things, but I never did said anything about that I didn't want you to get married," his mom clarifies.
Theresa tells a different story. "She wrote us a letter disowning Steve, saying she wasn't coming to the wedding, and telling him he's making the biggest mistake of his life."
Dr. Phil wants Terry to own her contribution to the family drama. He takes her to task for discussing her marital woes with Theresa's aunt, Heather. "Isn't that in violation of the spirit of what your son asked in honor of that occasion that day?" Dr. Phil questions.
"He didn't ask me that," Terry maintains.
Turning to Steve and Theresa, Dr. Phil says, "Isn't kicking your mother out of your wedding the height of drama?"
Dr. Phil is incredulous. "You didn't kick her out? You had the cops on her on the yard!" he says.
"She was told from December on, if anyone — whether it was her, the sister, any family member of mine — said anything inappropriate to anybody, about anything, they were going to be asked to leave. She has been trying to turn her children against Steve's father from the divorce," Theresa explains.
He addresses Theresa. "You don't want to come between Steve and his mother. Because he will ultimately resent you for that, however right you may be factually, and however much you think she's being unreasonable," he warns. If you come between a child and their parent, and you get that can tied to your tail, that won't work for you."
Terry should also not come between Steve and Theresa. "You don't want to try to keep her from being the woman in his life, because you have been replaced," Dr. Phil tells her. "And you have to embrace and support that. And if you have another agenda, run it another way. But you guys all need to say, 'This is ridiculous.' If you lost your son today, God forbid, how dumb would you feel? If you lost your mother today, what would you give to get that five months back? Don't waste this time. Because it's just not worth it."