Get Straight With Your Weight, Part One

Ready for Weight Loss
Dr. Phil talks to people who are ready to get straight with their weight.
According to Kember, she should be thin. She has a wonderful, supportive husband and four healthy teenagers. Married for three years, Kember says her husband, Bob, looks at her like she's a size 3 instead of a size 20" and the way he looks at her makes her feel great.

"I want Dr. Phil to make me feel the way that Bob feels about me," says Kember. "I want to feel great about me and I don't."
When it becomes clear that Kember is medicating old problems with food, Dr. Phil tells her, "You started using food for comfort when nothing else would seem to comfort you. That's simply outdated in your life now. You need to re-engineer your life. In this case, you've got to treat the source and not the symptom. Overeating is your symptom, and until you change the pattern in your life, the symptom will not go away."
A former football player, John weighs nearly 400 pounds. "I've talked to the experts," Dr. Phil tells John. "Based on your profile, they agree that you are 12 times more likely to have a major cardiovascular event than the average man. Does that matter to you or does it seem like an abstraction?"

"It does matter to me," says John. "But being a big man has always made me feel like a king. This is a self-worth issue."
"You grew up in a culture where being big was good," Dr. Phil tells John. "That time is over! I hate to be the guy who delivers the news, but it's time to change your value system. You've got to say, 'The time is now.' You don't need that validation anymore. It's time to replace old behaviors with new behaviors and find a lifestyle that keeps you at a weight that will also keep you healthy."
Even thought Tonya realizes that the 50 pounds she's gained since her marriage make her less attractive to her husband, she can't seem to make herself exercise or stop eating fast food. "He has every right to be dissapointed," says Tonya.

"If he has a right to be upset, then explain why you're still doing it," says Dr. Phil. "It seems to me you're thinking to yourself 'I have a totally hedonistic attitude ... I'm just going to have a party in my mouth!'"
"If you don't want your behavior to change, it won't change," says Dr. Phil. "This is not about willpower. The difference between a dream and a goal is a timeline and consequences. Right now, there are no consequences for you if you don't lose the weight. It's time you made a plan and helped yourself to recognize that you need to make losing weight your biggest payoff."