"People do hate Adelia. It's classmates that don't like her, it's parents and it's teachers," agrees Daniel, Adelia's dad. "My greatest fear is that Adelia will be hated and won't be able to succeed in life."
Kids in Adelia's class even started the "I hate Adelia Club."
Dr. Phil then asks Natalie to list Adelia's good qualities.
"She has a wonderful heart. She is always wanting to help me around the house and she's very loving to her brother and sisters," says Natalie. "She's very artistic and creative, especially with the piano and violin."
Dr. Phil says that Adelia may be suffering from low self-esteem and is lashing out because she's afraid of rejection, perhaps thinking to herself, "I'll get them before they get me."
Dr. Phil tells Natalie, "Realities for children die hard. She has a biological mom who is gone. Dan then dated women who cycled through and then were gone. And now that you're here, why would she have any basis to predict anything other than, 'I'm going to be left again'?"
Dr. Phil continues, "You can't just deal with the anger. Anger does nothing more than hide hurt, fear or frustration."
Dr. Phil suggests that Natalie encourage Adelia to describe her feelings without using the word angry, and he also suggests that Natalie open up to Adelia as well, working to forge a special relationship with her oldest daughter.