The Ex Factor

Pauline admits that she’s still in love with her ex-husband, Alex. She says they met when she was 500 pounds and were married for two years.

“Pauline and I met online,” Alex explains. “We had been emailing for a long time, and I wanted to know what she looked like. She told me, 'I need you to know that I weigh 400 pounds’ but it didn’t matter. I fell in love with the person I was writing to. The rest I didn’t even see. When I was intimate with Pauline, it was the best sex I ever had. If anything, I think her weight enhanced the sex.”

He says that despite loving Pauline, her insecurities about her weight began to interfere with their relationship. “When her insecurity was high, she would call up to 20 times a day, and I’d be in a meeting,” Alex explains. “I’d have to take her call, and reassure her that everything was OK. She worried a lot that a thinner woman would take me away.”

[AD]Alex says that he and Pauline eventually separated, but not because of her weight. Pauline began to have disputes with Alex’s son, and wasn’t willing to resolve the conflict. But despite their breakup, Alex says he still loves and supports her.
“When Pauline got the title for world’s heaviest woman, it really threw me for a loop,” he says. “I thought that this whole time she was losing weight … I love her, and I don’t want this to affect her health, but eventually it’s going to catch up to her.”Dr. Phil asks Pauline why she didn’t resolve the dispute with Alex’s son.

“It’s really difficult to have a blended family,” she confides. “I thought it would be perfect and wonderful, but as soon as I had an issue with his son, I just bailed. I really regret that. I should have hung in there and tried to work it out a little more.”

“Did you have any idea she was as large as she was when you talked to her?” Dr. Phil asks Alex.

“Not at all,” he says explaining that he fell in love with Pauline’s character and was very attracted to her.

Alex explains why Pauline’s weight was never an issue.

Pauline says that apart from disagreements about their blended family, they were a happy couple.

“Were you able to be intimate when you were together?” Dr. Phil asks.

“Very much so,” Pauline says. “Normal like anyone else. It was awesome. That was absolutely not a problem at all.”