"Tyler recently asked me if he could give me his autograph," she continues. "He signed his name on my arm!"
Rather than having her boys idolize athletes, Michell says, "I'd like for them to look closer to home, to people in their family or people in the community."
Michelle asks, "Dr. Phil, how do I encourage their interest in sports but have them value Mom's opinion, just as much as they do professional athletes'?"
Dr. Phil corrects them: "The most powerful influence those boys have is you."
Dr. Phil points out that the boys might like wearing basketball jerseys because of how they see their father dress: with his hat backward, wearing a jersey, baggy shorts and designer basketball shoes.
"They look up to you," Dr. Phil reminds Charles.
They also need to learn that they can emulate certain characteristics of someone, but not others. "It's OK to say, 'He is a good basketball player, but sometimes he's not a very nice guy,'" Dr. Phil says.
"At 5 years old, you're their number one role model," Dr. Phil tells Charles, because same-sex parents are the most powerful influence in a child's life. Dr. Phil stresses that the boys need to know what they're good at and also be exposed to good citizens.