Lisa recorded some of her thoughts in a video dairy:
Lisa: I just want to get better. I want to be happy. I just don't see that happening ...
I'm 41 years old. I can't have kids. To be honest with you, I feel like I'm a lost cause and there's no help ...
"Well, I don't go looking for it," says Lisa. She explains that they always start off as friends. "And the next thing I know, I catch myself in love and then it's too late. I try to get out of it, but as you can see I'm not doing real well in that category."
Dr. Phil tells her to stop it before it starts. "Just don't do that. Isn't this costing you dearly?" he asks.
"Oh, big time," agrees Lisa. "It sucks." Lisa explains that in the beginning she didn't want a commitment, but she does now. "I don't even know what a normal relationship is like. If I do meet a single guy, he doesn't have a chance because I'll never be able to trust him."
"What do you mean you couldn't trust a single guy?" asks Dr. Phil. "Like you can trust the married guys " they're having affairs with you!"
Lisa agrees that she's finished with married men, but she feels that she's done so much damage to herself that she'll never find a healthy relationship.
"Look, the only time is now and the choices you make now are what's going to determine what happens in the future. So you can do this now, today," advises Dr. Phil.
Dr. Phil tells Lisa that she doesn't need to jump into another relationship right away. "You can take some time to withdraw from those relationships, get really clear with yourself about who you are and what you want to do, and then you can consider a relationship," he says.