Internet Mistakes: Amanda, Mary

Online War of Words

Since giving her opinion on the Facebook message boards, Amanda has butted heads with Mary about the group Thirty Reasons ... and their online conversations have become heated. They meet for the first time facing Dr. Phil.

Dr. Phil looks over some of the messages that they've been sending to each other. "Mary, you said, ‘Amanda, it's people like you who piss me off. I drink, I smoke, and I still have 90s in all my classes, so don't tell me I can't do " ' well, I have to edit that one, ‘because I **** drink. You disgust me. You're a worthless bitch.' Why would you be saying that to some stranger on the Internet?" he asks her.

"Because the group, I think, is made for fun," Mary says. "It's not meant to be serious. It's not meant to affect people's lives, and she's going on and categorizing every girl who's on there and saying, ‘If you drink, and if you post these pictures, then you're automatically a slut,' and it's not like that for anybody on there, I don't think."

"That's not what I said at all. That's a complete misrepresentation of what I said on that site," Amanda says, turning to Mary. "No one is trying to pull the drink out of your hand, Mary. Could you look at me when I'm speaking to you? Thank you. The issue at hand is once you drink, you take those photos of yourself … That's what you're advertising to the entire world. Not ‘I have As in all my classes. I'm doing amazingly.' No, no, no. Your professors don't see that. Your parents don't see that … You're not advertising the glamorous, excellent portions of your life. You're glamorizing the embarrassing portions of your life."

"We're not glamorizing it by any means," Mary responds. "It's a part of everybody's life. It happens to you whether you like it or not. The people on that don't lack intelligence because they drink and put pictures up " "

"Well, it's obviously lacking in intelligence if you're taking a photo of yourself wrapped around a toilet and putting it on a public Internet forum that anybody may access!" Amanda argues.


"They're not embarrassed of it at all. It's nothing to be embarrassed of. It's a part of your life," Mary says.

Dr. Phil interrupts their argument. "Let me ask you something. How old are you?" he asks Mary.


"I'm 17," she says.

"So, you're not

even supposed to be drinking," he says. "That's against the law."

"Yeah," she admits.

"But you say every weekend you and someone else will usually share a quart of rum?"

"It would be me and a few friends, and it's not every weekend," Mary says.