Is It Over? A Divorce Solution: Jason, Dr. Hallowell

An Expert's Take

After observing Jason's kitchen task,  Dr. Phil turns to Dr. Hallowell. "Tell us what you're conclusion is after watching this experiment, adding that to what we already know about this couple," he says. 

"Well, adding it to the history, which is really the crucial element to the diagnostic process, I would hope, Jason, that you'd be open to taking it to the next step, which is to get a formal evaluation," Dr. Hallowell says. "You really can't just make this diagnosis shooting from the hip, but if it is ADD, my goodness, your marriage can be saved, and that's true with so many millions of marriages where one spouse has ADD, and they don't know about it, they're heading toward divorce, they've got the Ferrari brain but no brakes whatsoever, and the next thing you know, they're divorced, the family is broken, and it's such a shame. If it is " I'm not saying it is " but if it is, and you can open up to that, you could lay claim to a whole new life, not only in your marriage but professionally. This is a diagnosis that turns careers around, not just marriages. And to get past the defensive stage " you're saying, ‘I don't want to change.' What you really mean is ‘I don't want to lose my good parts,' and nobody is going to take away your good parts. But you do want to get better control over the parts that are causing you trouble, right?"

"Correct," he says.

[AD]"Do you frustrate yourself sometimes? Do you get in your own way sometimes by lack of concentration?" Dr. Phil asks Jason. "Do you get frustrated because you have to get in the car three times, that you forgot the parmesan? Does it ever bother you that you've gotten 20 tickets?"

"Oh, most definitely," he says.

"Why do you get 20 tickets?"

"I guess just lack of control."

"You don't want to lose your driver's license, and you don't want to kill somebody either," Dr. Phil says.

"Not at all," Jason says.

Two of Dr. Hallowell's best-selling books on ADD are: Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder from Childhood through Adulthood and Delivered from Distraction: Getting the Most out of Life with Attention Deficit Disorder. Along with a team of leading experts, Dr. Hallowell developed a short screening quiz that may tell you whether you could have ADD or ADHD and need a more detailed diagnostic workup. To take the screening quiz, click here.

Dr. Phil asks Dr. Hallowell how Jason scored on his screening quiz.

[AD]"He's in the ballpark," he says with a smile. Dr. Hallowell pats Jason on the shoulder. "You've got a good chance of qualifying for the prize."

"By the way," Dr. Phil tells Jason, "the guy sitting to your immediate right has ADD."

"And I wouldn't trade it for the world," Dr. Hallowell says. "But I've learned how to control it, so I've got a wonderfully happy marriage and three phenomenal children. I've achieved at a good level, but you ask my wife " some people say, ‘You couldn't possibly have ADD.' You ask my wife: ‘Oh, yes he does.'"