Kids and Weight Follow-Up, overweight children

Kids and Weight Follow-Up, overweight children
In a follow-up, Dr. Phil finds out if the parents of obese children took his advice.

Tina and Her Son, Joshua

Four-year-old Joshua weighed almost 160 pounds when his mom, Tina, first appeared on Dr. Phil. Tina told Dr. Phil that she believed there was an underlying medical condition that was causing Joshua's obesity, even though doctors were unable to find one.

Tina now admits that after the show, she was angry with Dr. Phil. But after watching herself on television, she feels differently. "I was obnoxious and rude," says Tina. "I feel I came across as a person with an attitude problem."

A few weeks after their visit to Dr. Phil, Tina and Joshua began the Shapedown program that Dr. Phil had arranged for them. "Everything is going great," says Tina. "I've totally changed the way I cook and the amounts of foods I allow Joshua to eat. This is our fifth week [on the program]. We walk or play soccer for 30 minutes a day." Tina goes on to explain that in five weeks, Joshua has lost almost five pounds.
Tina says that she has a surprise for Dr. Phil. "I am here today to tell you that you were right. I am in control of my son's life. And I am doing what I can to get him back on track," she says.

Dr. Phil tells Tina, "It's been eight weeks since you were here. You've been in the Shapedown program for five weeks, and
he's still within a few pounds of where he was at the beginning. When we talked to Christina at Shapedown, she said you're not exercising enough with Joshua. If you change your lifestyle, the weight will take care of itself. The fact that after eight weeks he's only lost two or three pounds tells me, based on results, that you haven't made the dramatic lifestyle changes you need to make. This child needs to lose over 100 pounds."

Dr. Phil also tells Tina that it's critical for her to avoid dealing with Joshua in a way that makes him perceive that he's done something wrong and is going to be punished or deprived. "He has done nothing wrong," explains Dr. Phil. "He doesn't buy the food or prepare the food."

Sandy and Her Son, Mike

When Sandy first appeared on the show, her 12-year-old son, Mike, weighed 262 pounds and she was struggling with her own weight. Sandy told Dr. Phil that healthy food was just too expensive. Dr. Phil arranged for a nutritionist to show Sandy how to eat healthy foods on a budget " in addition to providing Sandy's family with YMCA memberships.

"Since we appeared on the show, we switched from eating ice cream as a snack to eating yogurt and fruit," says Sandy. "There is a difference in the way I shop. Instead of pre-packaged food, I go for carrots and things like fresh vegetables. We've also been working out."
"When I first went to the YMCA, I was nervous," says Mike. "Most of the people looked like they didn't need to work out. But they made me feel welcome."

Putting on a pair of his old trousers, Mike says, "Dr. Phil, since I was on the show, I have a lot more room in my pants."

"I was worried about people looking at me or the kids funny [at the gym]," says Sandy. "But then I started thinking about it, and they had to start somewhere too. At least I wasn't across the street eating. Since I was on the Dr. Phil show, I've lost 10 pounds and gone down two dress sizes. I feel like it's a new beginning. Dr. Phil, thank you for helping us get off our butts and get busy."

Amanda's Story
Twenty-year-old Amanda was eight months pregnant when she first appeared on Dr. Phil. Her 3-year-old son, Jared, had been placed in foster care because she had allowed him to become obese. He weighed 120 pounds when he was taken away and lost 70 pounds in foster care. Amanda desperately wanted her son back and feared her unborn child might be taken from her as well.

"Since I went on the Dr. Phil show, we had a court date," explains Amanda. "My parental rights [with Jared] were terminated. I had my last visit with him. It was for an hour, and that's the last time I can see him until he turns 18."

"I gave birth to my daughter on February 4. A case worker came into the hospital ... He showed me the paper. The judge had signed it to be able to take the baby away from me. The foster mom came in and took her. Any babies I have in the future will be taken."
Amanda's attorney, Richard Hitt, explains that they are in the process of appealing the court's decision to terminate Amanda's parental rights to Jared. "They didn't give her a chance to show that she had picked up the parenting and nutrition skills," explains Richard. "In Michigan, there is a presumption that once you lose one child, this is carried over to all subsequent children. They've never given her 24 hours unsupervised [with her children] to see what she's learned from the program they designed for her."

He goes on to explain that Amanda's parental rights to her infant daughter have not yet been terminated. "So far, she's been temporarily placed in foster care," says Richard.
Molly and Her Mother, Connie

"I am obsessed with cheerleading," explains Molly. "I even put together a cheerleading team with girls from my neighborhood. My mom encourages me 100 percent but she also says, 'You know, you're going to have to lose weight if you're going to be able to do this.' I can't do the cartwheels and handsprings and stuff. I think the world should have a chubby cheerleader because not everyone wants to look at a girl that's skinny."

[AD]"My daughter, Molly, really wants to be a cheerleader," explains Connie. "She's probably 80 pounds overweight. She's not a realist. Do I encourage her? Or do I give her a reality check? Cheerleading today is very athletic with the kicks, the handsprings, the cartwheels ...This is really hard for me because I want to encourage and support Molly, yet I don't want her to go out there and be completely devastated when she doesn't make cheerleader. Dr. Phil, how can I encourage my daughter yet still be realistic at the same time?"
Dr. Phil tells Connie: "Your question is a valid one ... You're exactly right not to do anything to take her dream away."

Turning to Molly, Dr. Phil says, "I want to be honest with you. Can a 220-pound girl cheer as passionately and energetically as someone who weighs 100 pounds? Absolutely. Can you do all of the requisite moves that everyone on the squad might do, [such as] tumbling and jumps? Probably not. And that compromises you."

Dr. Phil continues, "With a dream, you say, 'I want to do this someday, somehow, somewhere.' With a goal, you say, "I want this by a certain date and I'm going to identify the steps I've got to take to get there.' If you want to try out as you are now, my advice is, go for it. Your energy and enthusiasm and the way you light up a room when you talk about it could light up a stadium ... But I would also set up a goal to make myself more competitive."