"I'm stuck in Vegas and I hate my husband for doing it to us," she says. "I don't want to raise my children around boobs, sex and sin." She also says they've gone from "riches to rags" and are living paycheck to paycheck. "Rick has asked me to get a job to help out and I refuse. What about our three kids? Who's going to watch them?"
"It's all on me and I know that," says Rick. "It's a constant argument. It would be nice just to come home and not talk about, 'Let's move here, let's move there.'" Rick says moving takes money and a job to go to, and he doesn't have either.
Rick agrees that he tends to just unplug and not deal with his wife when she does that. Stephanie says Rick doesn't try to see things from her point of view.
"First off," says Dr. Phil, "Isn't it true that the two of you decided together to move to Las Vegas?" Stephanie agrees that they did. "But you said, 'I hate him for bringing us here.' You went further and said you're in sin city where it's nothing but boobs and sex. OK, did they just grow those since you moved here?"
Stephanie says she feels that they didn't look at the big picture when they made the decision to move. Dr. Phil continues: "What you just said is, 'We decided this. I hate you. We decided, we failed to look. I hate you.' When did it go from 'we' to 'you'?"
Dr. Phil tells her that life is about intentions, and asks Rick what his intentions were when they married. Rick replies that he never intended to put his family in this position. Dr. Phil turns back to Stephanie: "So you two made a decision and then when it didn't work, you blamed him for it."
"I'm not blaming him for making this decision. I'm blaming the both of us," says Stephanie. "But I'm blaming him for jumping into that next job without looking at the whole scenario."
Dr. Phil tells them they're not going to fix the situation by turning on each other. "You don't go into negotiations by beating people up. You go in helping them feel good by being part of the process." Herb, an expert negotiator whom Dr. Phil invited on the show, adds that they both have a problem. Stephanie needs to ask Rick to discuss the situation with her and Rick need to ask his boss to help him negotiate a better deal at work.
Stephanie says she wants Rick to understand her position as a mother. She feels she has no support system, especially because he's giving himself to work — not to her. Dr. Phil tells her there are things she can control while living in Las Vegas, like finding some adult interactions and forming some friendships.
He turns to Stephanie: "Are you ready to back off and try to become part of the solution instead of just identifying the problem?"
"I am," she replies.
To Rick: "And you have to be willing to not keep hiding in your job and being stuck in denial. Are you willing to open your mind to moving and look at some things differently?"
"Absolutely," says Rick.