Getting Real about Relationships

Referring to the cat calls and applause that greet Steve Harvey when he walks onstage, Dr. Phil says, "You've got some fans in the house. What do you think?"

"It kind of blows your mind," Steve replies.

Dr. Phil holds up a copy of Steve's best-selling book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. "We're going to talk about finding love. You know how to do that," he says.

"Oh yeah. I've found it a bunch of times," Steve quips.
[AD]"You're on your third wife," Dr. Phil observes.

"People ask me all the time, ‘How can you tell anybody about a relationship when you're on your third wife?' I've learned that failure is a great teacher," Steve replies. "I messed up a couple of times, and I finally got it right."


"You say that men love differently than women," Dr. Phil observes. "What do you mean?"


"If a woman is constantly expecting a man to return the same love that she gives, she's going to be constantly disappointed, because we just don't return it the same way," Steve replies.

Steve explains his Three Ps theory: "We profess, we protect and we provide," he tells Dr. Phil. "Women are nurturing, communicators, caring, sharing, givers, lovers. It's a total, encompassing love. Your man can't do all those things on the day to day, because it's not in our DNA."


"You say men are driven by who they are, what they do, how much they make," Dr. Phil notes. "Talk about that."

"You've got to find a man who has an idea of what he wants to do. The important part to him is who he is in that," Steve explains.
Dr. Phil introduces Steve's wife, Marjorie. "How is he on the husband front?" he asks.

[AD]"Steve is an amazing husband," Marjorie replies. "He does an excellent job."


Dr. Phil observes that the couple met 17 years ago. "How'd you meet him?" he asks Marjorie.


"At his comedy club. I was late. My girlfriend and I were going to his show. This was the beginning of his career," she replies. "Steve was already up doing his show. He stopped and was just staring at me."


"Yeah. Just like this," Steve says, making faces at his wife.


"Everybody's turning around, looking at him," Marjorie continues. "He said, ‘I'm sorry. I don't know who this is, but that's going to be my wife.'"

"You say he's never broken your heart. He's always treated you like a lady. He has been the model guy," Dr. Phil notes.


"He was that even when we dated before. It was more of the long distance," Marjorie says. "We both kick ourselves now: ‘Why didn't we do this a long time ago?'"

"You were saving yourself for the good years," Dr. Phil points out.

"Good answer, Doc," Steve says

[AD]Dr. Phil mentions that Steve recently launched an online dating site called "What do you find when you go to this [site]?" he asks.
"You can weed through a lot of garbage out there with profiles. Then we created a way where you can chat, and you can do video chat with a person," Steve explains. "You can watch a movie together on your computers, and you can actually chat during the movie. You can go out with a guy without leaving your house."