Marriage Hungry: Jamie
Dr. Phil talks to a woman who admits she is obsessed with the details of her wedding, even though she doesn't have a boyfriend!
Dying to get married, 23-year-old Jamie (left) has every detail of her wedding day planned out — from the ring, to the reception, to the party favors.

"I am obsessed with my wedding," says Jamie. "The missing piece from my wedding is the groom. In the perfect world, I want to be engaged by the end of next year. The problem is, I don't even have a boyfriend."

Jamie continues, "When I see two people in love, I feel extremely sad and jealous. After my parents divorced, I started dreaming about creating the perfect family, the perfect wedding, the perfect groom ... and a perfect child would complete the package. Dr. Phil, please help me let go of my obsession with the perfect wedding."
Dr. Phil: How old are you?

Jamie: Twenty-three.

Dr. Phil: Twenty-three? You still have stuffed animals, don't you? Are you obsessed with the wedding or the marriage or the husband? What is it you're focused on?

Jamie: I guess right now I'm more focused on the wedding ... maybe finding the husband.

Dr. Phil: What are you doing to find a husband?

Jamie: Not much.

Dr. Phil: You seem to have this theory kind of like in "Field of Dreams,": "If you build it, they will come." You've got everything planned, the dress and everything! You've got it all set up and are just sitting there hoping some guy will come along thinking, "Man, I wish I could find a wedding ready to go!"
Dr. Phil: Is it possible you are putting out this message: "Danger, danger! She has the dress!"

Jamie: Yes, they can probably smell the commitment.

Dr. Phil: You said you couldn't control your parents' divorce, but that you can control the perfect wedding. You do understand that there's no such thing as this perfect fantasy wedding that you're creating in your mind?

Jamie: Yes.

Dr. Phil: But that doesn't matter does, it? You're going to continue to fantasize about it anyway.

Jamie: Most definitely.

Dr. Phil: Are you moving toward something or away from something? I've seen people get married because they can't stand living at home with their parents. So when they get married, it's not that they're moving toward the guy, it's that they're moving away from the situation they're in. Are you moving toward being married or away from being single?

Jamie: Probably away from being single.
Dr. Phil: That's the wrong thing to do! It's not that you want marriage, it's that you don't want what you have. It's not that you have something specific that you want to move toward. Does that scare you?

Jamie: Yes. It scares me that I never thought of it like that. It's kind of like I didn't know myself.

Dr. Phil: You've got this sense of urgency and you're afraid you're going to compromise and marry Mr. Right Now instead of Mr. Right. Why is it important to get married?

Jamie: I just think it completes you.

Dr. Phil: Well, they said that on "Jerry Maguire!" Isn't that selling you way short? Why do you need a man to make you OK? Isn't that the question you need to ask yourself? My theory is that if you think you need to be half of a couple to be all of who you are, that's wrong thinking. You don't need to be half of a couple to be complete.