Mikai Returns: Home Without Mikai
After two months of treatment for molesting his little sister, Mikai returns for an update.
"Since Mikai has been gone, life is hard, crazy, stressful," says Kenda. "I feel like I'm at the edge of a breakdown. I just keep beating myself up. What could I have done differently? ... I've forgiven him, but I don't trust him because how many times does he have to sh** on you before it's like, 'He's going to do it again'?"

"I'm worried about my wife because she has disconnected herself. I've seen it before and it caused her to crash," says Brad, who's also having a tough time. "I can't tell you how jealous I am that Mikai's getting all this help and we're here living in the real world, trying to struggle and survive. Some of us might not get out of here alive. It might be me, it might be one of my kids."
Since the show, Brad and Kenda have learned about instances when Mikai was the victim of sexual abuse. "The other children were saying, 'Oh, we used to play Spin the Bottle with this babysitter and we'd have to run out to the trampoline naked,'" Kenda explains. Kenda is also putting the pieces together about why Mikai stopped playing football. "He quit playing because he didn't want to be touched. It was around the same time when he was being abused by the babysitter," she says. "Sexual abuse is more of the norm than the
exception. It is in every home everywhere."

Kenda is also concerned for her husband. "Initially, Brad couldn't see the victim in Mikai; all he saw was the predator. Brad sees himself in his son. Brad was pretty much a horrible husband when we first got married. He was a liar, a manipulator, he was unfaithful — he was a Mikai."
Although Brad and Kenda were hesitant to believe Mikai would make any progress, they were pleased when they met with him and his therapists. "He's come a long way," says Kenda, acknowledging that he still has a long road ahead of him.

"I can tell that he's been helped along the way and he's discovered some things within himself that he didn't know before," says Brad.

"He's been out of the house for two months now. What's the result in the home?" asks Dr. Phil.

"Things were better," says Kenda. "We had a lot more harmony, a lot more peace. It was just pleasant to be home because there wasn't the constant fighting and bickering among the children and the contention ... What we have learned is that Mikai is not the only sick one in our family."
"I think it's important to look and ask, 'What role am I playing in this?" says Dr. Phil. For example, even though Mikai molested his younger sister and physically abused his younger brother, Kenda still wanted to bring them along to spend the day with Mikai at Disneyland. "In retrospect, does that seem now to have not been a good plan?" he asks her. "Do you see that it could be highly provocative during a time that he's struggling to get his bearings?"

Kenda responds, "I'm being torn apart. I was trying to take care of everybody at once and not thinking."

"Do you see that ... the thing to do is not to bring two of his most intimate victims and bring them and put them right in his face and go, 'Let's go to Disneyland and pretend that nothing ever happened; we're just going to be one big happy family in Fantasyland'?"

"I do see that now," she says. "I feel like I just need to be educated."