Mom vs. Mom

Mom vs. Mom
Working moms and stay-at-home moms go head to head in debating the best way to raise children.
"I feel strongly that my wife should go back to work for financial purposes," says Scott, whose wife wants to stay home with their newborn.

"I want to be the one to change her, to feed her, to read to her, to sing to her, to bathe her," says Pam. "You can't ever have that again with your child." For example, she's willing to give up their home.

But Scott thinks that Pam doesn't understand his position. "I was laid off last year and it took a year to find another position. It was very difficult." He thinks that a nice home is the "foundation of the family" and he also wants to be able to enjoy luxuries like nice cars and vacations. "A smaller house isn't going to mean that much less money. It may save a small amount but it's not going to save enough for you to stay home," Scott tells Pam.

Dr. Phil asks Pam if she thinks she'll be cheated if she doesn't get to stay at home.

"Yes," she replies. "I have a son who's 10 and I wasn't able to stay home with him, and I don't want to go through that again. I want to be able to stay home and be able to spend the quality time that I feel I missed with my son."

"Why do you think she wants to stay home?" Dr. Phil then asks Scott.

"I think it's to spend time with the children and do motherly things," he replies. "But we've created a two-income lifestyle."

Dr. Phil encourages the couple to think creatively about their money issues so Pam can stay at home, suggesting that Pam consider freelance work from home.

"You two are too entrenched in your positions," Dr. Phil says. "It's not about money, it's about negotiating a way for both of you to get what you want."