Overweight Brides

Overweight Brides
Dr. Phil talks to a woman who wants to lose 50 pounds before her wedding.
"I'm a 28-year-old bride and I've struggled with my weight for the last 12 years," says Megan, who weighs 280 pounds. "I've even gained 10 pounds since I bought this dress. I look like an elephant."

Her fiancé, Wesley, also struggles with his weight. "I feel by not controlling my own weight, I'm a negative influence on Megan," he confesses. "I don't think it bothers her but it bothers me."

Megan admits, "Eating numbs the feeling of loneliness or anxiousness. I'm close to 300 pounds and that's unacceptable. If I were to walk down the aisle today in my wedding dress, I envision everyone looking at me and thinking, 'She is lucky she found somebody to marry her looking like that.'"

Megan also worries that she'll let her parents down. "They spent all this money on a beautiful dress, but I'm not going to look beautiful in it," she says, growing emotional. "I feel like I'm such a failure."
"Do you really in your mind and heart believe that you can change your body?" Dr. Phil asks.

"Yes I do. I've reached rock bottom," she answers.

"I get the sense, in everything I've learned about you so far, that you have a deathly fear of being the center of attention, that you feel horribly conspicuous."

Dr. Phil also points out that Megan is afraid to let her parents down. "Again, this fear of being looked at and judged by somebody else ... What I want you to do is lose this weight one time — right. I don't want you to lose 50, gain 60. Or lose 70 and gain 90. Because that's what most people do ... But if you change your lifestyle so it's not where you're living to eat, and instead you're eating to live, you're going to start seeing a whole new momentum. It's not just about losing the weight. It's about reclaiming who you are."

Her fiancé, Wesley, agrees to do it with her.