The Robin McGraw Revelation and Dr. Phil Foundation
Cortney says she refuses to marry her boyfriend, Travis, until she loses 50 pounds, but has failed with every diet she’s tried.
“I am not going to get married until I lose this weight because I don’t want to be a fat bride. From meeting Travis, I went from a size four or six, to a 16. I’m 5’3 inches and weigh 195 pounds.”
“I have tried starvation diets, diet pills, and there’s never been a time where I feel like I’ve lost weight a healthy, natural way,” she admits.
“If Cortney could show the drive and commitment to a healthy lifestyle change, we can get engaged much sooner,” Travis says. “To get out of going to the gym and working out, Cortney will sometimes make excuses, like she has a headache or her feet hurt.”
Cortney says Travis sometimes calls her nearly 20 times a day to remind her to go to the gym.
“So, you’ve decided to encourage her and start coaching her?” Dr. Phil asks Travis.
“Yes,” he says. “I’ve actually lost some weight over the last few years myself, so I know what it takes. It takes a lot of work. So, I’ve tried to encourage her and show her the things I’ve done.”
“And how’s that going for you?” Dr. Phil asks.
[AD]“Not that great,” Travis muses.
“Well, you’re not even married yet, so let me tell you,” Dr. Phil says. “Women do not want to be coached by their husbands. They don’t want to be counseled by their husbands, and they sure as hell don’t want them taking their weight and making it an issue. Learn that if you don’t learn anything else.”
Turning to Cortney, Dr. Phil asks, “Would you rather entertain yourself with food than be married?”
Cortney says she doesn’t want to choose food over her marriage, but she lacks the discipline to stop eating and lose weight. She also says Travis pressuring her to work out makes her less interested in the gym. “I ask myself, ‘Who am I doing this for? Am I doing this for me or am I doing this for Travis?’ And that’s not enough motivation for me,” she explains.
Dr. Phil tells Cortney she sounds as if she’s making excuses. “Do you want to lose the weight or do you not?” he asks.
“Yes, I really do,” she replies.
“If she starts on P.I.N.K. Method, how long will it take you to get the 50 pounds off her?” Dr. Phil asks Cynthia.
Cynthia says Cortney could lose the weight within a few months. “We have women who start, and they lose a pound a day on P.I.N.K. Method, so absolutely you can lose that,” she explains.
“Diets are so restrictive that you rebel against them, right?” Dr. Phil says. “You’ll start craving something — something salty or sweet — and you’ll kill to get it so you rebel against it. That doesn’t happen here because you don’t give up a [AD]single food group. She can be at her weight in a total of 90 days, right?”
“Easily,” Cynthia says.
“So, you can have a wedding in April,” Dr. Phil tells Cortney. “You have to set a date for this wedding and set a date you’re going to arrive at, and I’m telling you, this is going to take you there.”
Dr. Phil explains that there are four stages of readiness a person must confront, before they are ready to make a major life change:
“Stage Four is when you’re at the point where you are so sick of the problem, you don’t want it for another second, another minute, another hour of the day. Are you there?” Dr. Phil asks Cortney.
“Yes,” she says, growing tearful. “I’m there.“
Cynthia and Cortney set a goal for her to lose 50 pounds in 90 days. She says that if she loses the weight, she and Travis would love to have a wedding in April. “My grandparents were married in April, and that’s who I look up to,” she says.
“You do this program, you will arrive at that date,” Dr. Phil insists.
[AD]Dr. Phil offers Cortney an Alfred Angelo wedding gown — the dream dress she says she wants to wear down the aisle — as motivation to lose weight. Cynthia says she also plans to help Cortney meet her 90-day goal on P.I.N.K. Method.
“You walked in here without a plan,” Dr. Phil explains to Cortney. “And now you’re walking out of here with a plan, a date and a dress. Things are going pretty well, right?”
“They’re going very well,” she says with a smile.