John defends his parenting style. "Little kids need to know that there's a boss.
Becky turns to Dr. Phil: "It's time to bust my drill sergeant husband. Can you help me?"
Sierra is not John's biological daughter, but he doesn't want to treat her any differently. "I want to be part of her life more than I am now. I don't want her to grow up resenting me. I want her to be able to come to me with her problems," he says.
Dr. Phil looks toward the future, asking, "Isn't what you want is for her to feel really special and know that the power male figures in her life love her and cherish her and respect her, instead of her going out starved and hungry for male acceptance and approval, and therefore being real vulnerable?"
Dr. Phil suggests: "I'd like you to go home today, and it's not going to be easy, she's going to be resistant at first, but I want you to go to her world, wherever she feels most comfortable. I want you to sit down on the floor, and I want you to tell her how sorry you are for yelling at her and scaring her. I want you to tell her, 'I was wrong, and it wasn't you, and I'm sorry.'"
John replies, "I'd feel good about it."
Dr. Phil shares a personal anecdote about tucking Jordan and Jay in bed at night. He confesses that Robin did all the work to get them into bed, and he'd come in to say goodnight. "I got in a habit with our two boys that when they were at that age, every night when I'd come in and tuck them in, I'd always kind of tickle them a little bit and say, 'How do you suppose that out of all the little boys in the world, I got the best ones?' And they would just giggle and wiggle in those covers."
He tells John, "Find that special thing you can say to her from your heart."