Eventually she found out everything he told her was a lie and she pressed charges. Still, she says, "At times I miss him. I thought this was the guy that I was going to be spending the rest of my life with."
As Ashley became more involved with this man, she started missing a lot of school and hanging out in her
"Because Ashley doesn't appear to know how to cope, I am afraid that she's going to give up," Rebecca admits. She asks Dr. Phil, "Can you please help our family learn how to overcome the worst nightmare of our life?"
Dr. Phil asks Rebecca and Kyle for their thoughts.
"What warning signs did you miss?" Dr. Phil questions, pointing out that Ashley suddenly started getting sick a lot, for example.
"I feel very guilty because I did find that she was chatting. There were inappropriate e-mails; there were nude pictures that were e-mailed to my daughter. These
"Did you confront her?" Dr. Phil asks.
"We confronted her, absolutely," Rebecca says. "I got on the e-mails and I told these people, 'If you even think of e-mailing this child back, charges will be pressed.' But I didn't actually take it to the police."
Dr. Phil introduces Detective James Brown from the LAPD's Sexually Exploited Children's Unit, and asks,
Without giving away their specific tactics, Detective Brown explains that they would begin an investigation. "Through investigative tactics, we'd seek out this individual and have him perhaps make some of the same innuendoes to us that he was making to the child," he says.
"So this doesn't fall on deaf ears?" Dr. Phil asks. "These things are aggressively pursued, investigated, and you try to ferret these people out?"
"Absolutely," Detective Brown replies. "There's an entire national effort with national funding to provide task forces to do this work."
Dr. Phil introduces Ashley and asks, "Do you see this person that you were involved with, assaulted by, molested by, raped by, as a sick and perverted criminal, or do you see this as someone you care about?"
"At this time I see him as a sick and twisted criminal," she says.
"Is that just because you found out that he was seeing other young girls or is it because you recognize that it is a wrong thing for someone to be doing?" Dr. Phil pries.
Ashley says both. "Mostly because I found out the reality of everything suddenly, and that's not how I believe relationships to be," she says.
"What did this predator do that made this something you were willing to suffer and endure?" Dr. Phil asks Ashley.
Ashley explains that she hid it out of fear and that she was also in love with him from talking on the phone.
"Even though you were very young at the time, didn't the fact that he had a gun to your head scare you?" Dr. Phil probes.
"It scared me pretty bad," she admits.
"How did you square those things up?" Dr. Phil continues.
"I'm not totally sure," Ashley says. "Just the feelings and the things that he promised me ... That I would always have him. He would take care of me. That even though my parents didn't
Dr. Phil asks Ashley what she would say to other kids in that similar situation now.
"I want those girls to know that it does happen," she says. "Back then people told me the dangers of chatting, and I was like, 'It doesn't happen. That's what you see in the movies.' But I want people to know that it does happen and it can affect your life in more ways than you can even think."
Dr. Phil reassures Ashley. "You've got to understand and believe that what you've been through, as difficult and painful as it's been, that it ended, and you have to manage what happened after that. You have your whole life stretched out ahead of you at this point, and you don't want to let this take that away from you," he tells her. "This was a sick and perverted person, but he's gone, and I suspect will probably spend the rest of his life behind bars. But you, on the other hand, can get excited about your life." He adds, "I think it's great that you have the courage to tell your story," because she may be saving someone's life. "You should feel very proud of that."