At 7:43 a.m. Yvonne's kids can be heard screaming and crying. "It's like this every morning," she says.
"We can't control them," Yvette adds. "They're very bad." She claims that she does everything for her sister, including taking the kids to daycare. "Yvonne doesn't do anything. She cannot frickin' handle it by herself."
"If Yvonne would learn how to discipline her children, she would enjoy her children more," Debbie says. "Yvette screams at them at the top of her lungs."
Yvette raises her voice and says, "Yvonne gives in to them because she doesn't like hearing them cry. That's why her kids are spoiled rotten." She
Yvonne says of her kids, "They're number one in my life ... What scares me the most is losing my kids, not being able to provide for them and take care of them."
"Why, Chandler?" she asks.
"To go and have some fun," he says.
"No," she tells him. "You're staying here."
"She never took me to the park," Chandler tells the Dr. Phil camera crew. "I never went over
In his studio, Dr. Phil addresses Yvonne. "You say that your children are the most important thing in your life, but yet you create, participate, illicit, allow, maintain " whatever you want to call it " that chaotic life for them," he tells her. "That's abuse. That's abusive. There is verbal abuse there." He reminds her, "You need to create supervision, and standards and an order to their lives, and you can't do that if you're on drugs. You can't do that if you are a drug addict. Drug addicts cannot raise children properl
"No," she says.
"Do you call your sister and your mother names " bitch, C-word, MF, whore " in front of your children?" Dr. Phil asks Yvonne. "You've got a 9-year-old boy. He knows what's going on." He asks Yvette, "Have you driven the kids high?"
To Yvonne Dr. Phil says, "You've let your kids get in the car with a driver who is impaired, high." He points out that Yvonne let's her sister take care of her kids even though she lost custody of her own child because of drugs.
The twins' mom, Debbie, and their sister, Rosie, join the show via telephone. Dr. Phil asks Debbie for her thoughts.
"We do fight a lot, and I am frustrated with the situation, and I probably do " as Yvette says " attack them, and I am sorry about that," she says. "I want things to change. I want them to be
"In the last 10 years, you tell us, Yvonne, that you've used marijuana, LSD, acid, methadone, Loritab, Soma, Xanax," he says.
"Your mother says you stole your daughter's meds that she had been given for pain," Dr. Phil says.
"Yes," she admits.
"Do you think you're abusing those children? Do you think you verbally abuse them?" Dr. Phil probes.
"No," she replies. "I yell at them when I correct them."
"That's when they listen, when you scream at them," Yvette adds.
"I'm embarrassed," she admits.
"You didn't like me saying that you don't have much of a resume for somebody to be caring for those three children because you lost your own daughter due to drugs," Dr. Phil says.
She agrees. "I think I do a good job raising her kids," she says, breaking down.
Dr. Phil points out that watching oneself on tape can be a stark reality and open a person's eyes to things they may not have seen before. "When you see that, do you believe that that is good parenting?" he asks Yvette.
"No, it's not," she admits.
"When I'm not screaming at them, I do," she says, adding that she works six days a week, but still gets the kids up in the morning, dresses them and drives them to school.
Dr. Phil describes Yvette's behavior when she's with the kids. "You're passed out on the bed, stumbling around the room, yelling, screaming, fighting, putting them in the car, not strapping them in, no car seat for one of them, no buckle in for the other one, hitting them with a remote control," he tells her. "From the child's point-of-view, this can't be good."
Dr. Phil asks Yvonne how she feels about the way Yvette cares for her children.
"She tries her best. She really does," she says. "My kids love her."
"Yvette has told you, today, on this stage, â€˜Yes, I drive high with the kids in the car,'" Dr. Phil says to Yvonne. "Your husband drove high; two people are dead. [Yvette] drives high with your kids in the car. I would think you, out of anybody on the face of the earth, would be so hypersensitive to that, that you would protect your children from that, and you're not."
Yvonne sits quietly.
"They tell me that you sabotage [Yvette] when she's trying to get clean and straight," Dr. Phil says.
"That's not true," Yvonne replies.
"Did you bring her drugs when she was trying to get straight?"
"No. That is not true," Yvonne says. "I want her to be straight."
Dr. Phil asks Yvonne if she believes she has a drug problem.
"Yeah, I have a [problem.] It's not as bad as y'all think it is," she says.
"They pulled your head out of a bowl of spinach dip, because you passed out in it in front of the kids," Dr. Phil reminds her. "Does that seem outside the limits of acceptability?"
"Yeah," she replies.
Dr. Phil tells her that she can't change what she doesn't acknowledge. "I'm not going to try and talk you into the fact that you're an addict. It is what it is," he says, explaining that Yvonne admits to doing too much at night, but otherwise she believes she's fine, and it's Yvette who has the bigger problem. "I think that is so terribly, terribly wrong," he tells her.
Dr. Phil asks the twins, "How do you feel about the fact that y'all are in such a position that your sister " who seems to me to be a very credible, certainly clean and sober young woman " doesn't want you in her wedding?"
"It hurt my feelings very bad," Yvonne says.
"Do you blame her?" Dr. Phil asks.
"No," Yvette says. "I don't have to go. I don't even have to be there, and I am not going." Starting to cry, she faces Maria and says, "I am not going to your wedding. No way. I'm not. You're embarrassing me in front of all these people."
"I am trying to get you " " Maria begins, but is interrupted by her sister.
"No, I am not!" Yvette yells. Tearfully, she continues. "I am so embarrassed. No. I am not going. You hurt me bad. I know you want me to be better, but you hurt me."
"I didn't do this to hurt you. I did this to help you," Maria tells her.
"I am so embarrassed," Yvette repeats.
"You should be," Maria says. "This is all so terrible."
Dr. Phil asks Yvette, "How did she embarrass you?"
"Because everybody knows my problem, and she's the one who called the show," she explains.