Paul says he was excited about the anger management counseling that Dr. Phil sent them to. "The session reiterated how I need to keep my cool under all circumstances," says Paul. "I look forward to coming home," he adds, "and I can see us lasting and having a great
Nora also sees a difference. "The one big moment that changed me the most was when I realized that I do need to take my walls down and let Paul in and be vulnerable to him," says Nora. "The best thing that we got out of the retreat was to forgive each other. It was nice to leave all our baggage there."
"No," says Nora.
"OK. Do you think waking him up in the middle of the night to keep screaming fights going is an anger problem?"
Nora disagrees. "That's needing his attention, needing him to listen to me and validate what I'm saying. I'm not doing it because I'm angry; I'm doing it because I'm desperate for that attention from him."
Dr. Phil argues that Nora's behaviors are aggressive, such as her pinching Paul to keep him awake, and prying his eyes open.
"I was helping him stay awake so he can listen," justifies Nora.
"That's better," says Nora.
"All I want is for you guys to manage this going forward. I just want you to look at yourselves like, 'What can I do to keep this moving forward?'" Dr. Phil tells them.