Relationship Rescue Retreat: Finale: Rob and Deanna

Relationship Rescue Retreat: Finale: Rob and Deanna
In the dramatic conclusion, six couples who were on the verge of divorce return for an update.
Although they were high school sweethearts and have a 20-year history, Deanna doesn't believe that she and Rob were ever truly partners until they came out of the Relationship Rescue Retreat. "When Dr. Phil looked me straight in the eye and said, 'You in fact have him totally castrated, don't you?' I felt that was probably the point when I realized my ultimate responsibility in my marriage. And it made me feel like I don't ever want to do that again," says Deanna.

Another change she made was becoming more intimate with her husband. "One of the commitments I made the day after the show to Rob was, for 30 days, if he was interested in sex, so was I. Rob's reaction when I told him that was a huge grin that I could not have slapped off his face," jokes Deanna.
"After the Relationship Rescue, we have come miles," says Rob. "We smile, we laugh, we're doing things the way we should've been the last 15 years. We don't fight anymore."

The moment that changed Rob the most was when Dr. Phil asked him to confront Eric about rebuilding his relationship with his dad before it was too late. Rob had been drinking to dull the pain over his father's death, but hasn't had a drink since two weeks prior to the retreat.

"The best thing I received from the retreat was a wife who smiles again," says Rob. "I see a light in her eye that I haven't seen in 16 years. I got my wife back. I got my best friend back. There's no place I'd rather be than home."
"Now, Rob, I assume that I am at the top of your Christmas card list?" Dr. Phil jokes.

"Right up there," says Rob.

"How are you doing? Are you guys having fun?"

"Yeah, we are," says Deanna. "We've got goals and plans and just good times, playing with the kids, being a family and partners."

"You know, I think we've gotten to the point where we live so much in the fast lane and we're in so much discourse sometimes that it just becomes our comfort zone," observes Dr. Phil. "We just accept less than what we want. If someone had said, 'Here's what it's going to be like. Want to sign up?' We'd have said, 'No way.' But yet we accept it once we're there. And you guys have made the turns to get back on the road. I hope you come away with how much power you truly have to make changes in your life because it's a truly tremendous power " the power of choice."