Relationship Rescue Retreat: Getting to the Truth: Rob

Relationship Rescue Retreat: Getting to the Truth: Rob
Dr. Phil continues his intense workshop with six couples on the verge of divorce.

During the buddy dyads, Rob randomly pairs up with Mike. In response to "What I do when I'm afraid ..." Rob says, "I try to emotionally detach from things. I don't confront conflict well. I run away from it." He doesn't mention anything about his drinking.


Dr. Phil asks Mike: "How long has it been since you've had a drink?"


"Almost six years," responds Mike.


"Almost six years of sobriety," says Dr. Phil. He turns to Rob, "How long ago did you quit now? Has it been two weeks?"


"Three weeks," says Rob.


"Do you think you have a problem?" Dr. Phil asks.


Rob considers his answer. "I have a problem drinking," he says.


"Did he talk to you about that?" Dr. Phil asks Mike.


"No, sir."

Dr. Phil asks Deanna if it bothers her that Rob didn't bring up his drinking to Mike.


"Yes, it does bother me," she says.


"Do you think he's actually quit and done what he has to do to go from having a problem to not having a problem?" he asks her.


"No," says Deanna.


"Are you helping him with it?"


"No, I don't think I am," she admits.


"Do you think he ever drinks to escape?" Dr. Phil asks.


"Yes," says Deanna, wiping a tear away.


"Do you think when you disrespect him in front of the children and put him down and yell and scream that he just thinks, 'Whatever'?"


"I think that's exactly what he thinks," she says.


Dr. Phil turns back to Mike: "Do you think it's any accident that you wound up with a buddy that is five years, 11 months and one week behind you?"


"No coincidence," says Mike, referring to their history with alcohol.