Relationship Rescue Retreat: Self-Defeating Games: Undivided Attention
Dr. Phil continues his intense workshop with six couples on the verge of divorce.

Dr. Phil instructs each participant to face his or her spouse. "I want you to just take a moment and look at your partner. Now, I'm going to predict that you don't do this very much. I can tell you that before we leave here, things are going to get ugly," he warns. "There are going to be some demons that are going to be cast out of these marriages. You need to reach down deep into your gut, deep into your heart and you need to tell the truth."

Dr. Phil instructs the wives: "I want you to tell your husband, 'What I wish you would stop doing because it is killing me inside ...' I want you to speak with honesty. Go."

Deanna to Rob: "I wish you would stop drinking. I wish you would stop withholding affection from me because you're angry."


Nora to Paul: "I wish you would stop attacking me. I wish you would stop putting me down."


Kimberly to Mike: "I wish you would quit acting like you're better than everybody else. It is so embarrassing to me. I just want to hide when you're acting like you are just Mr. Cool and everybody else is a piece of sh**. You're not perfect."


Jennifer to Eric: "I wish that you would stop calling me names. I wish that you would stop getting drunk."

"Stop," Dr. Phil tells the wives. "Husbands, I want you to tell your wives, 'What I wish you would please stop doing ...' Go."

Paul to Nora: "I wish you would stop being angry all the time. I wish you would stop questioning my manhood and throwing that in my face like I'm not a man."


Vinnie to Donna: "I wish you would stop yelling at me. The way you speak to me, it makes me feel like I'm a child. It makes me feel like I'm beneath you."


Paul to Nora: "I wish that you would stop pushing me away."


Rob to Deanna: "I wish that you would stop bugging me about the drinking thing because it's not an issue " anymore."


Eric to Jennifer: "I wish that you would stop correcting me, Jennifer."

"Stop," says Dr. Phil. "Wives, tell your husbands, 'What I wish you would start doing because I need it so desperately ...'"

Nora to Paul: "I wish you would start making me feel like I am a priority to you and you do love me and I am important."


Donna to Vinnie: "I want you to start giving me some money. I need some money. I can't walk around without money."

Dr. Phil instructs the husbands to finish the same sentence, "What I wish you would start doing because I need it so desperately ..."

Paul to Nora: "I wish that you would start greeting me when I come home from work with a hug and a kiss."


Rob to Deanna: "I need physical affection from you."


Vinnie to Donna: "You need to take care of me in bed. I don't want to feel like it's a chore for you to do it."

Dr. Phil stops them. "Wives, tell your husbands, 'What I hope you will continue to do, because I value it so greatly ...'"

Nora to Paul: "I hope you will continue to be a good provider."


Donna to Vinnie: "Continue to tell the truth and telling me where you are and not calling other girls."


Deanna to Rob: "I hope you will continue to be the man who fills my car with gas and doesn't even tell me."

Now it's the husbands' turn:

Vinnie to Donna: "You do take such great care of the baby. And you continue to take care of yourself and your body. And you're beautiful."


Paul to Nora: "I hope you continue to take care of me when I'm sick. I just hope you continue to be my wife."

In a separate exercise, Dr. Phil has all the couples stand across from each other, with their hands behind their backs.

"I want you to rate your marriage," Dr. Phil tells them. "One is the worst, 10 is absolute perfection. Be honest. One, two, three, go."

At the same time, each couple holds up a number with their fingers, corresponding to how they rate their marriage. Here is how each of them rates their marriage:

Eric: 5, Jennifer: 4
Paul: 3, Nora: 3
Rob: 4, Deanna: 3
Mike: 3, Kimberly: 3
Rene: 4, Gelsy: 3
Vinnie: 2, Donna: 2

They each explain to their partners why their relationship is not a 10.

Nora: "I need to feel like I have a partner." Paul: "I need you to show me affection."


Deanna: "I need the negativity to stop." Rob: "Believe me when I say something. Trust me."


Kimberly: "Have compassion and understand how difficult it is to be home alone." Mike: "If I need to relax, understand that I've worked my ass off all week."


Jennifer: "You can answer me when I ask you a question." Eric: "Stop correcting me."