"Stand up," Dr. Phil tells Donna. "You were very reluctant to raise your hand. You were the last one out of the 12 to raise your hand and that's a real important signal to me. You're a right-fighter, aren't you?"
"You could say that," Donna responds.
"You like to fight. Well, lady, you're going to lose this fight," Dr. Phil tells her. "I told you I've never done this without kicking somebody out and you're the first one on the block." Dr. Phil asks her if she wants to stay or go.
"I want to stay," says Donna.
Dr. Phil reiterates that she's not going to like some of the work she'll have to do.
"I need the help," says Donna. "I'll stay."
"What if she gets mad and says, 'Let's go home'?" Dr. Phil asks.
"I'll tell her we're staying to finish," says Vinnie.
"What if I kick her out of here?" Dr. Phil asks.
"Then I'll probably be going home with her," Vinnie responds.
Dr. Phil explains that if Vinnie says he's going to finish this retreat, he needs to do so with or without his wife. "You're going to have relationship demands whether she's in the picture or not, and you aren't very good at relationships right now, are you? So you need that help whether it's with her or with somebody else."
Dr. Phil tells Vinnie and Donna that they are each 100 percent responsible for their marriage problems, and they can't change their partner. "The only person you can control is you. It begins now and that's why you've got to be 100 percent here or 100 percent gone."