Sex Wars: Intimacy After Surgery

Sex Wars: Intimacy After Surgery
Leonard wants to fill his Viagra prescription. His wife Debbie is afraid that if he does, he'll die from the excitement of having sex.
"Leonard and I have been married for 28 years," says Debbie. "It's been 10 years since we've been able to make love."

"In 1993 I got sick," explains Leonard. "I had quadruple bypass surgery. When I went to the doctor for a checkup, he said everything looked good. He asked me if there was anything I needed to ask him. I looked him straight in the eye and said, 'I want Viagra.'"

"That makes me very nervous because I don't want to kill him," says Debbie.

"She's afraid if we make love again, I'll have a heart attack," says Leonard. "Also, after 10 years, it might hurt her."

"Dr. Phil, now that we have that prescription, how can you help us enjoy that part of our life again?" asks Debbie.
"You're sincerely afraid you might kill him?" asks Dr. Phil. "I can't believe somebody hasn't talked to you about this. Let me assure you, he isn't going to have a heart attack from having sex. He might have one from thinking about it after 10 years! In fact, [sex] is a tremendous release. The sexual response is a relaxation and release response. It would be very healthy for him to do. What do you think, Leonard?"

"I'm ready!" exclaims Leonard. "One hundred percent!"

"I feel like I need reassurance," says Debbie.

"Do I not count?" asks Dr. Phil. "I'm not just making this up because I want the boy to get laid! I would not do that. Seriously, this is not one of those things that is traumatic to the heart. There is fear on your part, but you will work through this. There can be a fun rediscovery of that level of intimacy within your relationship. He is more at risk crossing the street than he is having sex. You guys fill the prescription and um...the rest of it, you'll figure out."