Slacker Wives and Moocher Moms: Tyrone and Keya

Slacker Wives and Moocher Moms: Tyrone and Keya

"My wife is the ultimate slacker. The bed is her domain," Tyrone says of his spouse of four years.

"I'm a stay-at-home slacker mom," Keya admits. "I can be in bed a total of 18 hours a day. My bedroom has everything that I need: The remote is here; my
phone is under my pillow. I thought about bringing a refrigerator or a microwave up here."

"If I'm downstairs, she'll call me on my cell phone to bring her something to drink. She wants to be waited on hand and foot," Tyrone says. "She wears pajama pants four days a week."

"I will usually take a nap until about 12:00, and I watch the soaps from about 12:00 to 3:00," Keya says.

"Keya does not do any housework. I have to pick up after her," Tyrone says.

"I do not mop the floor; that is a man's job," Keya explains. "Mopping the floor is nasty. Taking out the trash is a man's job. Tyrone cleans all the bathrooms. I guess this is me taking advantage of him, but oh well."

At 7:30 A.M., Tyrone gets the kids up and ready for school while Keya sleeps. "Coming home is just like a second job for me," he says. "From the moment I walk in the door, it's like clocking in. We'll start cleaning up, loading the dishwasher, while Keya is lying in bed watching TV." Tyrone cooks dinner too. "Keya is very picky as far as what she wants for dinner. It has to be cooked a certain way. She'll say, ‘You burned this,' or ‘This is too salty.'"

"If he told me he was going to cook a certain dish, and he doesn't, I throw a hissy fit," Keya says. "I won't eat it, and he can take it back."

"Keya won't come out of the bedroom and eat with the family. When she's finished, she'll set the plate on top of my pillow," Tyrone says.

"Some people are, like, born to be writers or maybe presidents or whatever. I was born to be a rich man's wife," Keya says.

"I'm far from being a rich man. I'm, like, a check-to-check man," Tyrone says. "Dr. Phil, how can I get my slacker wife out of the bed to help me more around the house?"

Dr. Phil goes over some of Keya's history: She spends 18 hours a day in bed, she hasn't taken out the trash or mopped the floor in eight years, she hasn't dusted in 11 years, she hasn't grocery shopped in a year, and the last time she cleaned a bathroom was four months ago. "So what do you do?" he asks her.

"I watch TV. Nothing, really," she says. "It's Tyrone's fault."

"I wouldn't say it's my fault," Tyrone argues. "I believe she just really got comfortable in her ways."

"Are you lazy?" Dr. Phil asks Keya.

"I'll get it done when I'm ready to," she says.

"So I guess coming up in 2012, you're going to be dusting that house again?" he asks sarcastically.

"Right," she says.

"Is this OK with you?" Dr. Phil asks Tyrone.

"No, it's exhausting at times, you know, to work eight, nine, 10 hours a day and come home and start working three or four more hours before I go to sleep, so I would like a little bit more help," he says. How did it get so bad? Tyrone says, "When I say something, it kind of creates a problem in a way, so I'd rather go ahead and just take care of it myself and not have to hear her complain."

Keya says her husband isn't telling the truth. "He really likes doing it. Tyrone will wake up in the morning and the first thing he asks me is, ‘Would you like me to get you something to drink? What do you want?'"

"So this is actually your gift to him?" Dr. Phil asks. He asks Tyrone, "Do you have some ownership in the fact that she stays in bed 18 hours a day? She says it's your fault."

"Yeah, because I bring to her drinks and food, and kind of cater to her needs in a special way," he admits. "I guess if I didn't bring her food, she'd have to get up to make her own plate."

Keya is displeased with her husband's portrayal of her. "I'm mad because he's making it seem like I'm filthy or nasty or whatever, and that's not the case. I've never asked Tyrone to bring me my food or bring me something to drink or anything like that. That's him. That's always been him," she tells Dr. Phil. 

Keya's aunt, Annette, says Tyrone is a natural caregiver. "There is something in him that makes him want to take care of her, but I think that he's set this thing in motion," she tells Dr. Phil. 

"You're secretly kind of jealous of this set up, aren't you?" Dr. Phil asks Annette.

"Absolutely!" she admits. "Oh, my God. Keya has the best life. I've been married 21 years. I still haven't trained my husband that well."

Keya says she wants to change and start helping Tyrone more.

"Well, why don't you get out of bed? This is an easy fix: Get up!" Dr. Phil tells her.

"I was hoping you weren't going to say that," she says. "That's everyone's solution, just get up and do it, but it's hard."

"Look, people do what works," Dr. Phil tells her. "This works for you. There's momentum in life. You get to flowing in a certain direction, and what you've got to do is say, ‘I'm going to behave my way out of this.' You've got to hold yourself to a higher standard and say, ‘Starting right now, I'm going to commit to doing something different. I am not going to get in bed and stay 18 hours a day. When the alarm goes off, I'm getting up.' Give

him permission to roll your butt out of bed when he gets up. If you have to, stand the mattress and box springs up against the wall so you don't have anywhere to lie down. Do whatever you have to do but get up, and schedule yourself things to do through
out the day. It's just a matter of behaving your way to success. Do you want to do it?"

"Yes, I do," she says.

Dr. Phil tells her he has something for

her to do " mopping the studio floor next door! Dr. Phil hands her a mop.

After a look of shock spreads across her face, she reluctantly says, "OK." Throughout the rest of the show, Tyrone relaxes in the audience while Keya mops!