Christi and her husband, Shadee, appeared on Dr. Phil four years ago. At the time, she wanted to be a soap actress. "I expected Dr. Phil to tell me to go
"I want to know what my wife is actually thinking when she competes in these pageants," Shadee says. "I need to just put my foot down and say, â€˜No. No more pageants. You're done.'"
Shadee and Christi have six children, and she is pregnant with their seventh. "Shadee hates me being in pageants because of the money and the time away from my family," Christi says. "My husband is very bitter because he's the one who gets to stay home with the kids in
Each pageant costs anywhere from $5- $10,000. "Christi prepares months ahead of time: going to the gym, tanning bed, looking for a dress, swimsuit, nails done, your hair done. I feel like my wife neglects me and the kids. I honestly don't want Christi to do any more pageants," Shadee reveals. "If this is something Christi really wants to do, then why are we having another child?"
Christi has no plans to pause her pageant dreams. "The closer I am to having this baby, the closer I am to being in the next pageant," she says. "One of my biggest fears is not having a pageant to look forward to and turning into a frumpy housewife, and that's not me."
"Christi needs to let go of this ridiculous childhood dream," Shadee says. "It's time for Christi to grow up and realize that she's not going to be a star."
Christi has already selected the next pageant she wants to enter. Dr. Phil asks her what her ultimate goal is.
"Shadee says that he does think you're neglecting him and the kids," Dr. Phil tells her.
"She's very, very good at the house," Shadee says. "If you ask me, I just think that the fact that she can get pregnant and be back to her normal weight " no stretch marks, nothing " is a pageant in itself. She wins a pageant against Mother Nature."
"Despite what he said on tape, my life is focused solely around my children," Christi says. "The Mrs. pageant systems, the thing I love about them is they do integrate your family, so my kids are involved. My husband's involved. It's not just me going out for a weekend leaving them all at home to fend for themselves."
"You said, â€˜I have gotten involved to the point that I have to admit that I am often mentally just not there,'" Dr. Phil says to her.
Shadee interjects, explaining that he and Christi used to watch pageants on TV together. "My daughters watched them. I didn't think anything of it," he says. "Once you go through the experience of being married to somebody who has to take all that time out " financially, physically, mentally, all that she has to put into it " it does become a strain on our relationship and our kids, and it does take time away from our family."
Dr. Phil asks Christi if she plans on entering her daughters in pageants.
"Anytime we watch a Miss U.S.A., Miss America pageant, they're all excited," Christi says. "My 4-year-old walks around the house, saying, â€˜I want to be those little girls. I want to wear those dresses. I want the makeup,' so she's really begging for us to put her in those pageants."
"Would you really put your girls into a pageant system?" Dr. Phil asks. "I've got to tell you, that creeps me out. They take 4- and 5-year-old girls and dress them up like hookers and parade them around."
"That creeps me out too," Christi says. She notes that when she did pageants as a child, there were some where the kids were not allowed to wear makeup. "There are other pageants that they can do."
Dr. Phil asks Shadee, "Would it bother you for [your daughter] to be in that kind of a pageant?"
"It would," he says. "I think the majority of the women are in it to win it, and that's where the problem is because if they don't win it, the emotion after them losing is hard to deal with."
"Do you really think if you don't go to pageants that all of a sudden, you're going to become some old frump in a house dress sitting around with your hair up in a chip clip?" Dr. Phil asks.
"Possibly," she says.
"Not her," Shadee says.
"I don't see it," Dr. Phil says. "It's all about balance."