The Nanny Affair: Brandon's side

The Nanny Affair: Brandon's side

"I believe that Amy has tarnished my reputation," Brandon says. "She'll say that, 'Brandon is spending money on gambling or alcohol.' Well, then my name automatically gets tied to that." He

says that anything he does causes Amy to turn against him. "I took a pay cut, which made me feel inadequate as a father. And then I would hear things from Amy like, ‘Well, you're supposed to be the father. You're supposed to be our provider,'" he shares. "I took those things to heart."

 

Brandon maintains that he's a changed man. "In the past, I've been very immature, and selfish and always put myself first, but I know now that that's not the way that I [want to] live my life," he says. "I feel really sad for any of the pain I caused anybody in the past, because I actually feel that pain now, and before, I really didn't care what anybody else really felt, or thought, or anything."

 

Heidi doesn't believe Brandon is capable of changing. "I think the only thing that will change Brandon is if God himself gives him a soul," she says, laughing.

 

Amy's parents agree with Heidi. "I don't believe that Brandon can change. I can't trust him," says

Cyndie, Amy's mom.

 

Mont, Amy's dad, adds, "Amy's relationship with Brandon has always been tumultuous. It's always kind of a cat-fight situation."

 

Amy explains that she is letting Brandon have the benefit of the doubt. "I'm giving him an opportunity to show me that he really is different this time," she says. Although, she worries that Brandon's behavior may not be a permanent change. "My greatest fear is that this is a trick, that Brandon has gotten extremely good at making it so that I believe what he says," she reveals. "I don't know where Brandon's head is for sure. All I can tell you is my perceptions: He really wants to make me happy."

Dr. Phil asks Brandon, "Do you feel like you're getting painted inaccurately by these two?"


"Yes, I do," he replies.

"You think she's out to get you," Dr. Phil says, pointing to Heidi.

"I think some of her statements are true, because I did have the affair with the nanny," he says.

 

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Did you ever come on to her?" Dr. Phil asks, referring to Heidi.

"I was at a party with a bunch of buddies, and we were all drinking one night, and I made a stupid comment," Brandon says, noting that this occurred eight years ago.

"What was the stupid comment?" Dr. Phil asks.

Brandon hesitates to answer.

"It was so foul you don't even want to hear it," Heidi interjects. She adds that Brandon made another pass at her a few years ago.


Brandon denies Heidi's claim. "That's not true," he says. "I think that you're hideous looking. I wouldn't lay a finger on you."

Amy and Heidi bicker with Brandon, and he points out that the women often gang up on him.

Dr. Phil asks Brandon, "Do you feel like you're getting painted inaccurately by these two?"


"Yes, I do," he replies.

"You think she's out to get you," Dr. Phil says, pointing to Heidi.

"I think some of her statements are true, because I did have the affair with the nanny," he says.

 

"

Did you ever come on to her?" Dr. Phil asks, referring to Heidi.

"I was at a party with a bunch of buddies, and we were all drinking one night, and I made a stupid comment," Brandon says, noting that this occurred eight years ago.

"What was the stupid comment?" Dr. Phil asks.

Brandon hesitates to answer.

"It was so foul you don't even want to hear it," Heidi interjects. She adds that Brandon made another pass at her a few years ago.


Brandon denies Heidi's claim. "That's not true," he says. "I think that you're hideous looking. I wouldn't lay a finger on you."

Amy and Heidi bicker with Brandon, and he points out that the women often gang up on him.

A perplexed Dr. Phil interrupts the conversation to ask them what they are talking about.

Amy explains that a few years ago she and Brandon were watching a news story about a man who got caught for murder. "He said, ‘Oh, well, if I wanted to murder you, I would never get caught. I would put you in cement, and no one would ever hear or see of you again, and I would get away with it,'" she recalls.



Heidi adds that recently Brandon made a similar comment to her. "I had no idea that he said that to her. He said that to me," she says. "He drove me to the airport and said, ‘If Amy doesn't shape up, I'm going to put her in a cement block, and no one will ever find her.'"

"Did you say that?" Dr. Phil asks Brandon.

"No," he replies.

"He told me he probably said it to me but that he was kidding," Amy says. "That is not a joke."

"I already know that [Heidi] hates me. Why would I go tell her something like that?" Brandon asks.

"I don't hate you. I'm not here to make things up," Heidi says. "You are the devil incarnate. I don't hate you. I just feel like you don't have a soul." 

Dr. Phil points out that Brandon and Amy's problems began in 1999. "You said in 1999 you started getting calls from other women who were talking t

o you about him," he says to Amy. "So you had hints of his extra-curricular, extra-relationship activities in 1999."

"Yes," Amy says.

Dr. Phil addresses Brandon. "In all the time that y'all have been together, you're saying the only time that you've had an indiscretion was with this one nanny that went into court and said what she said," he says.

"I flirted around a little bit and stuff like that, but I never had any kind of relations," Brandon says. 

 

The Dr. Phil show asked viewers to share their thoughts about Amy and Brandon's story on the message board at DrPhil.com. The first post reads, "He should have said, I AM MARRIED!" Dr. P

hil responds, "I think the point here is that when the nanny came on to you, all you had to do was say, ‘Hey, boundary, fence, I'm married. Back off.'"

 

Another viewer, Cate 45, writes, "He's full of it. He can't get his story straight."

 

Dr. Phil asks Brandon, "Do you think there are inconsistencies in what you're saying?"

 

"No," he says. "I know what happened."

Dr. Phil asks Brandon, "Is there anything you haven't said that you want to say?"


"I want things to work out between me and my wife," he says. "I know that we're going to have our ups and downs, but for us to hopefully be able to remain together, and trust each other and have a good family life for good." He says that he has gotten some help and will continue to seek help.

Dr. Phil offers his advice. "I'm not interested in telling you what you want to hear in the moment. I'm interested in what, if anything, can cause this family to survive to long-term. What can cause these children to grow up in peace and harmony, long-term," he tells the couple.

Tune in tomorrow for more with Brandon, Amy and Heidi, and see Dr. Phil's straight-up advice!