The Sex Talk: Jackie, Alexis, Aundrea

The Sex Talk: Jackie, Alexis, Aundrea

Jackie dreads having the sex talk with her two daughters, Aundrea, 11, and Alexis, 13. "When they were 3 and 5, they asked me, ‘Where do babies come from?' And I said, ‘The stork.' It was a lot easier back then," she says.


"When my mom tries having that talk with me, she gets all red and starts laughing. I'm like, ‘OK, but we have to talk about it eventually,'" Alexis says.

"I think boys are cute. My mom gets angry at me because she doesn't want me talking about that," Aundrea says.

 

"I always try to convince myself that maybe my kids will never end up having

sex. I know that eventually one day they will, and I'm hoping that it's when they're married," Jackie says. 

 

Dr. Chirban coaches Jackie through an ear piece for what she calls the most difficult conversation in her life. As she speaks with her girls one by one, Dr. Chirban encourages her to use the words sex and sexuality.

Afterward, Jackie says, "The scariest moment with me was when Dr. Chirban told me to actually say the word sex. I learned that I can actually say the word sex without turning my head or putting my hand in my face. That was a big accomplishment for me."

"I feel better about talking to her about it. I feel like it's going to be different," Alexis says.

"I was a little happy because she got through it, and I'm proud of her," Aundrea says.

"Why do you think it's been so hard to say the S word?" Dr. Phil asks Jackie.

"Because I never had the conversation with my parents, ever," she says.

"So, they never talked to you about it at all, so where did you learn? Because obviously you did because you have two beautiful daughters here."

"From school, friends," she says.


Dr. Phil asks Jackie to say the S word.

"In front of everybody? Do I have to look at them when I say it?" she asks, referring to her daughters in the audience.

"No, you can look at your feet," Dr. Phil says.


A flustered Jackie laughs, but then says, "Sex."

"You did it!" Dr. Phil says. He reminds her that this should be an ongoing dialogue with her girls. "So you know this isn't a one-shot deal, right?"

"Unfortunately," Jackie says.