Top Three Threats to Your Marriage: Kathy and Mark

Dr. Phil helps heal a rift between a woman and her mother-in-law.

Kathy calls her mother-in-law "a devil disguised as an angel," and describes her as "rude," "manipulative," "passive aggressive," and lacking "any and all social skills." After eight years of "trying to ignore her hurtful ways," Kathy can't take it anymore.

Kathy, who's pregnant with her second child, says her mother-in-law Ruthan constantly criticizes her parenting skills. She also gets annoyed when her mother-in-law sends magazine clippings about offensive subjects, such as losing weight and being a nicer person.

"I can't seem to do anything right in Kathy's eyes," says Ruthan, who fears losing her relationship with her son and granddaughter because of the rift.
As for sending her daughter-in-law an article about weight loss and criticizing her parenting skills, she says: "What is the harm in sending an article on losing weight? ... If she doesn't like something I say, she should just ignore it and do what she wants. Instead, she treats it as an insult."

Mark is caught in the middle of the tug-of-war. (But Dr. Phil gives him a break by letting him sit in the audience instead of in between his wife and mother!) "I love my mother and I love my wife," he says.