Ultimate Family Weight Loss Challenge, Part 2

Ultimate Family Weight Loss Challenge, Part 2
Dr. Phil checks in with the two families competing in the Ultimate Family Weight Loss Challenge.The Halls are facing challenges of their own as the weight comes off.
"I'm scared. It really is hard for me to picture myself as thin," admits Kim. "I know that I've used fat as a protection. I just feel like I don't have to live up to everybody's expectations."
Larry reveals his thoughts. "I'm feeling like an alcoholic that stopped drinking, very scared of that one drink because it could lead you back into a bad habit," he explains. "One of the greatest failures I've had as a parent was that I was passing my bad eating habits on to my children."
Grace says that the hardest part is fitting everything into her schedule; going to the gym and taking time to prepare food. "The Dr. Phil Weight Loss Challenge is challenging. I'm not going to lie and say it isn't."
Kim has concerns about her daughter Dayle. "Dayle may have trivialized the Weight Loss Challenge. She still hasn't figured out that she needs to do this for herself," Kim explains. "She has been going through some struggles recently. She may be dealing with a little depression."
Dayle spent last summer in Rwanda, Africa. "Things that used to mean a lot to me before don't mean that much to me anymore," she says. "I just see a lot of things as superficial."
"What's been the hardest thing for you?" Dr. Phil asks Kim and Larry.

"Taking that time and fitting that in with everything else we have going on. But we have made that happen," Kim says.

Dr. Phil asks Grace and Dayle what has been most rewarding for them.

"I think, personally, feeling better about myself and having more confidence," Grace says.
"I think working out after a long day gives me more energy, like relieves stress, and that's been really good," says Dayle.
Larry explains the changes in his life. "I'm feeling dramatically better," he says. "You always hear those people who tell you to eat right, exercise more and take vitamins and you'll feel better, and I feel better than I have.""Tell me about the issue that you're dealing with about the legacy and bad example that you think you've set for your family,"
Dr. Phil says to Larry.
"One of the things that has been a hallmark of our marriage is that we have said that no matter what happens to us, we would never pass on to our children, to the next generation, things that we might be harboring. They will have a clean slate, they will have a fresh start in life," Larry explains.
Dr. Phil explains that 70 percent of children that are obese or overweight will be obese and overweight as adults. Obese adults often face many medical conditions such as heart disease, hypertension and osteoarthritis. "So the point is, when you do that, when you set a lifestyle up that programs them to behave in a certain way, you're really creating a destiny for them that they don't have much choice about," he tells Kim and Larry and they agree.Dr. Phil asks Kim about the anxiety she feels as she loses weight. "A lot of women feel this way so don't think it's illogical," he tells her.
"It's really stupid, but [the weight] is a form of protection," Kim admits.
"What has it protected you from?" Dr. Phil asks.

"Early on it protected me from sexual advances from men. And even one time when I was fairly successful about losing my weight, it took one comment from a man who said something nice about my legs, and I freaked out and gained it back," she replies.
"You were molested as a child, and so if you are overweight, in your mind you're thinking, 'I'm less sexually relevant, I'm less sexually attractive and that's a safer place for me to be,'" Dr. Phil clarifies. "And as you start losing the weight and people start complimenting you on the way you look, that makes you really uncomfortable."
"Very uncomfortable," Kim agrees.
"That's what Key 1 and 2 are all about, right thinking and healing feelings. It's not just about what you eat," Dr. Phil says. "The only thing you can do is recognize the only time is now, it's not too late. You have two beautifu, healthy young daughters, and helping them to get a lifestyle flowing in the right direction is what you can do now today. You can't change what happened the last 10 years, what you can change is what you choose today, and that's what you guys have to do."Dr. Phil addresses Dayle. "You're kind of thinking that there's a whole lot that's going on your life that's pretty trivial, that you used to think was more important until you spent some time in Africa," he says.

Dayle explains that she has been going to Africa every summer since she was 15, and this past summer she went and lived with a family. "I love Africa and their culture and just coming back I didn't have a lot of time to process," she says.
"It seems like a lot of the things we pursue or talk about or embrace here are kind of superficial, kind of trivial. To the point where you're kind of having trouble getting involved, like in school your grades are dropping," Dr. Phil says, pointing out that Dayle is considering dropping out of high school and getting her GED.
"One of the things you have to learn, as a process of the Ultimate Weight Loss Challenge, is that you have to take care of yourself before you can take of others. You can't give away what you don't have," Dr. Phil tells her. "I will promise you that you with an education, high school education, college education, you with a healthy body, mind, spirit, can have so much more impact where you want to than you can ever have as a high school dropout that could just go over there and be a set of hands." He notes that she must make herself a priority and take care of herself first. "You've got to prepare yourself if you truly want to make an impact. Knowledge is power. Get all of it you can every time you can and then use it to your benefit."