Ryan doesn't think his father will ever change. "I think that my dad is the biggest piece of crap, ever, because of all the crap he's done through my entire life," he seethes.
Leslie feels trapped in a vicious cycle. "Bill abused our children, mostly verbally. Now I'm afraid Ryan's going to do it to his child. I want Ryan to get help. If he won't listen to us, maybe he'll listen to Dr. Phil," she says, voice breaking.
Michelle says that the video was a wake-up call for her as well. "I didn't realize how bad Ryan really was, even when we were arguing," she tells Dr. Phil. "I didn't realize how forward and how angry he was, even at that time, until I see it on camera right now."
Dr. Phil turns to Ryan's father, Bill, in the audience. "Were you abusive with him?" he asks.
"Verbally, I was," Bill admits. "I didn't strike him and beat him up to that extent, just when it became a fight where he was attacking me, and I'm hitting him to get him off of me."
Dr. Phil questions the logic of Bill's actions. "As a parent, doesn't it seem odd to you that you're on the floor rolling around with your son?" he asks.
"That's definitely wrong," Bill agrees.
"Absolutely," Bill replies.
"And your father did that with you?" Dr. Phil probes.
Dr. Phil turns to Ryan. "Do you feel hatred for your father?" he asks.
"I really dislike him. I really do," he replies. "I don't want to fight with everybody."
"I'm probably going to end up somewhere I don't want to be, in jail. Or Michelle is going to be gone," Ryan replies.
Dr. Phil says the repercussions could be much more serious than that. "One of two or three things is going to happen. Number one, you're going to alienate everybody around you, and you're going to be a very lonely person. Number two, you're going to tie into somebody who really doesn't want to hear it, and they're going to whup your ass!" he warns. "Or third, you're going to lose control, because you say sometimes you black out and you don't even remember what you did."
Ryan clarifies, "I don't remember how it starts and gets that out of control."
"I think that your view of things is so biased, and you're looking at it through such a filter, that you truly believe that she is to blame for this. But on the other hand, you know that's not true, right?" Dr. Phil asks.
"It's not just Michelle," Ryan admits. "I think everybody's at fault."
Dr. Phil praises Ryan for coming on the show and for not being in denial about his abuse. Yet, he insists that Ryan's parental legacy has to change.
Dr. Phil fixes his gaze on Ryan. "I know you don't like me telling her that, but you know it's true. You don't trust you, true?"
"True," Ryan says glumly.
Dr. Phil wants Ryan to understand that his anger and frustration have little to do with Michelle. "Everything you're feeling " all the hurt, all the fear, all the frustration " is coming from the inside out. If it wasn't her, it would be somebody else," he says.
Dr. Phil offers Michelle therapy as well. "You're going to have to have some help as well because you've been in an abusive relationship. I will make that happen for you," he promises.
Dr. Phil is optimistic that with counseling, the couple will be able to function in a nonviolent way. "You will look back on this and go, 'Oh, my God. What was I thinking?'" he tells them.
Ryan reluctantly accepts the help. "I guess I don't have a choice. I need the help, and I'm going to have to sacrifice," he says. "I don't like it. I really don't."