Peter, concerned that they only have $2,500 in their savings account, wants to reduce the costs and have a more practical wedding that fits their budget. However, Kathy insists upon having the wedding of her dreams with all the frills, including spending $7,000 on Ecuadorian roses, one of the most expensive roses available.
Kathy refuses to cut costs and is willing to go into debt over it.
"I've just waited so long to find the perfect person, I'm 35 years old," replies Kathy. "I've had in mind what I've wanted for my wedding forever. And I want it to be a perfect day. It's just something I always wanted."
Peter adds, "I don't want to wreck her dreams ... Most women dream about this exotic wedding, but I don't know how I'm going to do it. I'll feel like I'll let her down if I can't pull it all off."
"There's a feeling that comes from having this experience," says Dr. Phil. "There's a feeling that comes from walking down the aisle, and it's beautiful and everything is wonderful," says Dr. Phil. "It's the culmination of everything you've dreamed about everything you want. Is there a way to get that feeling for less than $48,000?"
"I think people focus way too much on the wedding and not enough on the marriage," says Dr. Phil. "If he is the right guy, if he is 'Mr. Wonderful,' then it wouldn't matter if you married him out in the parking lot. What would matter is that you were taking that step in your life and you were doing the union between the two of you that is going to be your future. And that needs to be your focus."
Dr. Phil concludes, "The reality is you cannot afford this and so you need to get happy about something you can afford and focus on the union instead of just the event."