What Are You Afraid of: Phil and Laurie

What Are You Afraid of: Phil and Laurie

Phil Keoghan, host of The Amazing Race and author of the book, No Opportunity Wasted, describes the moment that changed his life forever.

"I was scuba diving in a shipwreck at the age of 19, and I got left behind. It was a pivotal moment for me. I think for the first time in my life I realized that I could actually die," he remembers. "[When] I got out, I was so motivated to live the biggest possible life. I just started writing down all the things I would have regretted not doing had I died." Which led to his book, No Opportunity Wasted.

 

"This book is about getting people to focus on now because that is literally all we have. Most people are not completely happy with their lives. People are scared of taking risks. Part of it is this fear of failure. I have failed more times than I've ever succeeded, but the success I've had in my life has come because I have been prepared to fail," says Phil. He poses his favorite question, "If you were to take your last breath at 3:00 tomorrow afternoon, and you had one last thought about the thing that you would regret most not having done in your life, what would it be?"

Dr. Phil welcomes Phil to the show. "You've had an exciting life," he observes.


"I hope it's not over yet, but yeah," says Phil.


"This book you've written, No Opportunity Wasted, you really traced that back to that near death experience, where you say, 'I don't want to go to the grave saying, "I wish I had blank."'"

"Yeah, absolutely," says Phil. "Most people are not really fully satisfied with their life. They want more, but sometimes they don't really know what that is. And I think it's a lot to do with the fact that they haven't stopped, slowed down, and really thought about, what do I want to live for? Life is a gift and what am I doing with this gift?"

 

"What is the biggest thing left on your list at this point?" asks Dr. Phil.

"Now, my list, if you look at it, it's a lot about helping other people," he explains. "It is so hugely rewarding when you take time with people to address things that they want to do in their life, and you get the satisfaction of knowing that you have affected people, and that they've gone out and achieved things."

 

Phil teamed up with the Dr. Phil show to help a stay-at-home mom get out of her comfort zone and try something new, and quite possibly, terrifying.

"Dr. Phil, I'm a bored stay-at-home mom," says Laurie. "My daily routine is

quite mundane. I usually am looking for some adult conversation to break up my day. I am a soccer mom, and I drive a soccer mom's car. I watch Dr. Phil and Oprah every day. I do wish I had more of a story to tell you, but that's my life. I love my kids, but darn it, I'm bored. I only live
once and I'd love to do something risky. I definitely stay in my comfort zone. I really feel like it's time to take a risk."

A representative from the Dr. Phil show surprises Laurie at her door with a chance to drive a race car!

"Oh my God!" she exclaims. "I've always wanted to drive a racecar."

 

Phil joins Laurie on her day of adventure. "I am here at California Speedway where Laurie is going to drive a NASCAR faster than she has ever gone before, and quite literally change the way she lives her life," he says. He introduces himself to Laurie and says, "I understand that you don't feel like you are taking enough risk in your life?"


"And I think that this would give me more confidence," she says.


Before she can tear up the track, Bob, from the Richard Petty Driving Experience gives Laurie a lesson in entering and exiting her vehicle. Then it's

time put the pedal to the metal! Bob leads Laurie around the track while Phil speaks to her through her helmet.

"She's definitely starting to pick up some speed here," says Phil, watching.

"This is awesome!" Laurie exclaims above the roar of the engine. "Oh, I wish my husband could see me right now. He would die!"

Phil observes, "This is where she is going into a place in her mind that she hasn't been before, at a speed she has never driven before. If she can push herself here on the track, she will push herself in real life."

Laurie hugs the turns, just like the pros. Phil informs her, "You are two miles away from your target speed of 120!"

"Oh, baby!" says Laurie, enjoying herself as she races around the track.


"This is where you step it up," coaches Phil. Lauriei accelerates to 125 mph. "You have pushed yourself. You did it!"

"If this is what life is like in the fast lane, I'm ready!" she says. "If this is not stepping out of the box, I don't know what is. Dr. Phil, I love you!"


After her racing experience, Laurie reflects, "Wow. Unreal. I probably wouldn't have gone as fast as I did had he not been coaching me. Leaving my comfort zone gives me a whole new outlook. I will walk around with my head up high, with a little bit more confidence in myself. I might be driving faster. I'll walk away from this with a better outlook on what I can do with my life."

"Great job," Dr. Phil tells her. "You took the step. You did something, and that's what [Phil] talked about. You can't live in your mind; you've

got to take action. You sat down and wrote the letter, then it happened, then you were on a racetrack, then you're in a racecar, now you're here on the Dr. Phil show — This can't be boring!"

"Oh, no, it's not boring," says Laurie. "But how am I going to top this?"

 

"I know what you're saying, and that's the whole point. Keep it moving, keep it alive, try different things," says Dr. Phil.


"Absolutely," Phil agrees. "And I was so proud of her, Dr. Phil, because she went to a place that she just didn't think she could go to. And she pushed, and we did it safely."

Dr. Phil has a surprise for Laurie. "We are going to give the family a set of four tickets to the NASCAR Nextell Cup series at Watkins Glen, New York. And because we know Laurie's husband was very jealous that she got to drive a racecar, the Richard Petty Driving Experience is going to give him an opportunity to get behind the wheel."

"Oh, thank you," says Laurie.

Dr. Phil thanks the Richard Petty Driving Experience and the California Speedway for helping Laurie fulfill one of her wildest dreams. The audience also receives a copy of Phil Keoghan's book, No Opportunity Wasted, available in book stores now.